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Blue_Roses

(13,765 posts)
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 05:48 PM 23 hrs ago

Oh. My. God. Will this madness ever stop!

Just had another heated conversation with my sister about you-know-what. Her husband has to have to have surgery to fix an aneurysm on his aorta.. They are both upset about the marketplace premiums going up. I mentioned that I was mad about it too and that this is gonna hurt a lot of people. Of course, she blurts out, "It's the Demicrats fault! They are holding it up!" I took in a deep sigh, knowing that the energy to "debate" her was going be exhausting- and of couse it was.

She hasn't always been like this. In fact, she hasn't even been politically active. She gets this from her husband and son-in-law, who are so far up Trump's ass they know the brand of orange make-up he wears. They use all the MAGA talking points and verbage--woke, evil Democrats, sinful, etc.,... and trying to get a word in is almost impossible without yelling--which I am not gonna do. My blood pressure doesn't need that.

It's so sad because she and I get along well until this comes up. I always try to avoid it or say, "Let's agree to disagree and move on" but it falls on deaf ears. Trump has divided families, relationships, friends, our country and our world ( the list goes on). Loathe is not a strong enough word for how I feel about him.



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Oh. My. God. Will this madness ever stop! (Original Post) Blue_Roses 23 hrs ago OP
In my limited experience with brainwashed women, it always seems to come from their magat husbands SheltieLover 23 hrs ago #1
Yep Blue_Roses 23 hrs ago #2
Why would any woman allow her thoughts to be usurped by magats? SheltieLover 22 hrs ago #4
I suspect that it is akin to 'Stockholm Syndrome'. OldBaldy1701E 7 hrs ago #47
I suppose, but I would expect most women to have better sense SheltieLover 6 hrs ago #50
Heh, I could say that about a lot of people! (n/t) OldBaldy1701E 6 hrs ago #51
True SheltieLover 6 hrs ago #52
I think it's because they live in a closed socio-political bubble... Trueblue Texan 5 hrs ago #57
I've suspected that for a while now, uggh. blue_jay 1 hr ago #60
They can blame anybody / everybody they want, but their crap that they are suffering from, is all on them, and no one SWBTATTReg 23 hrs ago #3
Our enemies hired Trump to start Civil War II in the US. Irish_Dem 22 hrs ago #5
This is what malignant narcissists do MadameButterfly 21 hrs ago #20
I originally came to this site to talk about politics. Irish_Dem 19 hrs ago #31
Interesting lonely bird 7 hrs ago #41
I think political psychology will be a new specialty area. Irish_Dem 7 hrs ago #46
This is interesting Blue_Roses 17 hrs ago #36
I don't agree that they will go back to normal after Trump goes. travelingthrulife 7 hrs ago #43
Rec x 1,000,000,000 Clouds Passing 7 hrs ago #48
I'm just sharing the medical aspect of this condition MadameButterfly 5 hrs ago #56
Agreed, we are knee deep in a mental health crisis and badly in need of emergency treatment nt blue_jay 1 hr ago #62
None of this is by accident. yellow dahlia 19 hrs ago #30
Our enemies benefit. Irish_Dem 19 hrs ago #32
Exactly! yellow dahlia 18 hrs ago #35
Wow that is perfect YD!!! Irish_Dem 8 hrs ago #40
Yep, none of this is by accident, no doubt blue_jay 1 hr ago #61
Our reps are too passive LuvLoogie 22 hrs ago #6
The Press. I usually listen to NPR. Bohunk68 7 hrs ago #42
Bush-Cheney started NPRs drift into becoming David Brooks LuvLoogie 5 hrs ago #55
I know that explaining rarely works with such people PatSeg 22 hrs ago #7
Is there a polite way to say, Lying to Hassler 22 hrs ago #8
I was in detante with my brother until he messaged his... BurnDoubt 22 hrs ago #9
It has fractured families, social circles, our government and has ripple effects around the globe. One orange asshole Evolve Dammit 22 hrs ago #10
One question for her BaronChocula 22 hrs ago #11
Excellent retort. NoMoreRepugs 22 hrs ago #12
TY BaronChocula 22 hrs ago #14
I'm sorry, Blue_Roses, OddMom20 22 hrs ago #13
Thank-you Blue_Roses 17 hrs ago #37
Yup, he sucks, bigly. Joinfortmill 22 hrs ago #15
My siblings are the same way. so i guess the answer is bluestarone 22 hrs ago #16
My sister is the same way Blue_Roses 17 hrs ago #39
Yup. And they are always gleefully pro-war and pro-death penalty. travelingthrulife 7 hrs ago #45
I have family that espouses the same verbiage BeneteauBum 21 hrs ago #17
Zero tolerance Cirsium 21 hrs ago #18
He has had 10 years to come up with a health care plan. He only has "concepts" of a plan. Dem4life1970 21 hrs ago #19
she has access to the same information we all do Skittles 21 hrs ago #23
It's because he really doesn't want a plan. calimary 20 hrs ago #26
He thrives on chaos and fear. Diamond_Dog 20 hrs ago #27
There's is Nothing we can do. Republican Voters choose to believe lies, hate, and cruelty.... I'm sorry... Bread and Circuses 21 hrs ago #21
Other than a random text or two a month, I don't speak to my tRUMPer siblings wolfie001 21 hrs ago #22
I don't even talk to a magat until they face some truths - family or not mdbl 20 hrs ago #24
Yeah. Republicans can damage everyone's life... Kablooie 20 hrs ago #25
I am so disappointed in my niece. lucca18 20 hrs ago #28
That's... progressoid 4 hrs ago #58
When I can't avoid the conversation FormerOstrich 19 hrs ago #29
She didn't use to be like this but she CHOOSES to be like this *now. It's Maru Kitteh 18 hrs ago #33
The GOP has everything to do w that happening IbogaProject 18 hrs ago #34
K&R spanone 17 hrs ago #38
Their cognitive dissonance is too strong sakabatou 7 hrs ago #44
It will not stop until/unless they wise up. I couldn't "overlook" it anymore and stopped speaking to my CousinIT 6 hrs ago #49
so far up Trump's ass they know the brand of orange make-up he wears. underpants 6 hrs ago #53
I've cut them out of my life JustAnotherGen 6 hrs ago #54
Too emotionally invested to turn back now duckworth969 3 hrs ago #59

SheltieLover

(76,341 posts)
1. In my limited experience with brainwashed women, it always seems to come from their magat husbands
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 05:51 PM
23 hrs ago

Sickening.

SheltieLover

(76,341 posts)
4. Why would any woman allow her thoughts to be usurped by magats?
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 05:55 PM
22 hrs ago


Maybe it's the loud mouth magat men wearing them down. I cannot imagine putting up with such a creature, personally.

OldBaldy1701E

(10,067 posts)
47. I suspect that it is akin to 'Stockholm Syndrome'.
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 09:46 AM
7 hrs ago

Yes, it is most definitely a form of torture and assault. They convince the female that she is inferior by holding the things that the males do as more important than the things that females do. They try to live in areas that will support that belief.

Then, they are hammered by their 'betters'... religion, local governmental positions, a lack of any support system... they just literally put them in a 'concentration camp' of one.

Women need to remember that they are as much an equal part of the human equation as the men are, despite the fragile male ego's attempts to act like things are different.

SheltieLover

(76,341 posts)
50. I suppose, but I would expect most women to have better sense
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 10:05 AM
6 hrs ago

than to be taken in by that shit.

Trueblue Texan

(4,175 posts)
57. I think it's because they live in a closed socio-political bubble...
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 11:37 AM
5 hrs ago

All they see is MAGA; all they hear is MAGA; only MAGA concepts are extolled and anything not MAGA is demonized. They have no clear perspective on reality.

SWBTATTReg

(26,018 posts)
3. They can blame anybody / everybody they want, but their crap that they are suffering from, is all on them, and no one
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 05:54 PM
23 hrs ago

else.

Irish_Dem

(79,503 posts)
5. Our enemies hired Trump to start Civil War II in the US.
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 05:57 PM
22 hrs ago

It has been a very successful plan.
Everyone is at each other's throat.

And the evil MAGA propaganda has been brilliant.
Evil but brilliant.
The Maggots believe all the lies.

MadameButterfly

(3,735 posts)
20. This is what malignant narcissists do
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 07:22 PM
21 hrs ago

They accuse their opponents of what they are doing. Their followers act more and more like malignant narcissists themselves. According to Dr. Bandy Lee and other psychiastrists who authored The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump, the followers will go back to normal when the lead malignant narcissist goes away.

I'm not saying "normal" is good for Republicans, but when I used to debate policy with my Republican friends, we used to disagree on strategy. Now we disagree on facts.

It used to be about politics. You could make an argument. Now it's about biology. We are dealing with a mental illness where the infected are out of touch with reality.

Irish_Dem

(79,503 posts)
31. I originally came to this site to talk about politics.
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 09:47 PM
19 hrs ago

But yes now it is all psychology.
So I spend most of my time talking about that topic!!

lonely bird

(2,735 posts)
41. Interesting
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 09:03 AM
7 hrs ago

I have come to the conclusion that the only lenses to use in analyzing political economy are psychology, sociology and anthropology.

Lasswell said politics is who gets what when and how. He forgot where and, imo, most importantly, why. The social sciences dig into “why”.

Trump will be a case study for Ph.D thesis for decades along with a cautionary tale.

Irish_Dem

(79,503 posts)
46. I think political psychology will be a new specialty area.
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 09:43 AM
7 hrs ago

I have degrees in both, so I have been ahead of the curve.
I had no idea it would become a thing.

History should also be included as one of the lenses.

Yes if we do not become a dictatorship permanently, Trump will be studied.
As will the American people for giving away their democracy so willingly.

Blue_Roses

(13,765 posts)
36. This is interesting
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 11:30 PM
17 hrs ago

It is mental with them. I told her she had Stockholm Syndrome. Her mind is not what it used to be. I also told her she is in a cult. It's sad and exhausting ...

travelingthrulife

(4,392 posts)
43. I don't agree that they will go back to normal after Trump goes.
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 09:19 AM
7 hrs ago

Until we stop the continuous lies out of Fox News and their other 'news sources', they will not recover.

MadameButterfly

(3,735 posts)
56. I'm just sharing the medical aspect of this condition
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 11:34 AM
5 hrs ago

as explained by Dr. Bandy Lee and other psychiatrists who claim an actual contagion of the behavior of malignant narcissists on the people around them.

Of course Fox has to be addressed. They are complicit in all that has happened.

blue_jay

(184 posts)
62. Agreed, we are knee deep in a mental health crisis and badly in need of emergency treatment nt
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 03:30 PM
1 hr ago

yellow dahlia

(4,362 posts)
35. Exactly!
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 10:31 PM
18 hrs ago

Did I ever tell you about my first protest sign earlier this year? (April 5, I believe.)

It is a big one, on a giant stick.
One side says: This is not Efficiency. This is a Crime Spree.
The other had a list of all the agencies under assault at the time.

blue_jay

(184 posts)
61. Yep, none of this is by accident, no doubt
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 03:28 PM
1 hr ago

destroy the enemy from within, placing, bribing or coercing individuals one by one into positions of power and social media and using them to dismantle our government and its buildings. I wonder who could benefit from that? Pretty sure there are multiple options.

LuvLoogie

(8,490 posts)
6. Our reps are too passive
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 06:05 PM
22 hrs ago

They let the GOPs scapegoat "the other" without much pushback. This is the result of decades of wanting to share long lunches on k street with your colleagues, get invited to the talk shows.

Never addressing the dog whistles, the microaggressions, the outright bigotries.

That such brutish, reactionary grievance is coddled is gross. From the press always centering White America's feelings in diners to dismissing the brutality perpetrated on so many in the name of law enforcement.

Bohunk68

(1,429 posts)
42. The Press. I usually listen to NPR.
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 09:14 AM
7 hrs ago

Lately, I have been hearing a lot of stuff that made we wonder who the press person was supporting or reporting. Just this morning was one, and yesterday was over the top. From my viewpoint. Using Putinfluffer's vocabulary. ARRRGH.

LuvLoogie

(8,490 posts)
55. Bush-Cheney started NPRs drift into becoming David Brooks
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 11:02 AM
5 hrs ago

NPR's special interest features are still good, but their Washington/political reporting is maddingly U.S. corporate and dismissive/apologetic in tone when it comes to the abuses and criminality committed by this regime.

I'm really liking ProPublica as an organization.

PatSeg

(52,007 posts)
7. I know that explaining rarely works with such people
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 06:19 PM
22 hrs ago

The best response is to say something calmly and quietly like, "That is not true and you know it". It is a common tactic that I've seen Trump use and it often works with a lot of people. I've heard him say many times, "I know it is blah, blah, blah and you do too". Of course, in his case, he is lying.

There is no point in going into the facts or pull out charts, because they are usually just looking for an argument; a simple "that's not true" tends to be more effective because on some level they DO know it isn't true.

BurnDoubt

(1,403 posts)
9. I was in detante with my brother until he messaged his...
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 06:28 PM
22 hrs ago

photo of his inflatable Felon next to his XMAS tree last year.
After I sent his half of our Father’s Estate I hit the “Block” button.
Enough Is Enough.
He “owned" me… I dis-owned him.
I HATE the world these Pukes have imposed on us.

Evolve Dammit

(21,450 posts)
10. It has fractured families, social circles, our government and has ripple effects around the globe. One orange asshole
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 06:31 PM
22 hrs ago

aided by 40 years of Limbaugh, 25 of Faux News and hundreds of podcasters and fake journalists. Fake News was all projuction as usual. I lost family and friends also, and I'm sorry for you having to listen to utter BS. I actually felt better terminating some of the fractured relationships that were just spewing the talking points like you mention. Gotta take a stand sometimes.

BaronChocula

(3,987 posts)
11. One question for her
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 06:33 PM
22 hrs ago

"So you think trump is the one who wants to extend Obamacare subsidies that he promised to kill?"

OddMom20

(60 posts)
13. I'm sorry, Blue_Roses,
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 06:38 PM
22 hrs ago

That you’re having to deal with this. I’m sorry that SO MANY of us are having to deal with this. It sounds like you’re holding your own with the “let’s agree to disagree” statement - so kudos to you for taking the mature road (even though it would be much more enjoyable to say what we’re REALLY thinking - at least for me (messed up, I know)). Stay strong - we’ve got your back!!!

bluestarone

(21,095 posts)
16. My siblings are the same way. so i guess the answer is
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 06:51 PM
22 hrs ago

NO! In their case it's religion. They are all anti abortion, but blowing people out of the water killing them DEAD, even if we bomb them twice, while floating in the water is A-OK? They are CRAZY!!

Blue_Roses

(13,765 posts)
39. My sister is the same way
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 11:38 PM
17 hrs ago

Religion came into the conversation and they always try to over talk you. Sounds like our
siblings have been hanging out..

BeneteauBum

(303 posts)
17. I have family that espouses the same verbiage
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 07:02 PM
21 hrs ago

Started with a pleasant Christmas phone call and it ended with rage vented at the liberals. Just shook my head.

Peace ☮️

Cirsium

(3,336 posts)
18. Zero tolerance
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 07:07 PM
21 hrs ago

We won't put up with it. We wouldn't put up with an alcoholic ruining everything for us, family or not. MAGAism is far worse than alcoholism. There is no such thing as MAGA without bullying and abuse. We will not be bullied or abused. Period.

Dem4life1970

(1,043 posts)
19. He has had 10 years to come up with a health care plan. He only has "concepts" of a plan.
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 07:21 PM
21 hrs ago

She is gullible. She is deceived. I am sorry, it's not a matter of opinion. It's a fact that Trump has done nothing to improve the ACA as he "promised" to his gullible rubes a million times since he came down his golden escalator in front of his paid actors (google it) in 2015.

calimary

(88,931 posts)
26. It's because he really doesn't want a plan.
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 08:12 PM
20 hrs ago

I think the donald likes it better when he thinks everyone around him has no idea what to do or even what’s what. I suspect he thinks that gives him an “edge”.

Bread and Circuses

(1,512 posts)
21. There's is Nothing we can do. Republican Voters choose to believe lies, hate, and cruelty.... I'm sorry...
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 07:34 PM
21 hrs ago

I know it’s your sister.
Your approach is the best that you can do.

wolfie001

(7,038 posts)
22. Other than a random text or two a month, I don't speak to my tRUMPer siblings
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 07:36 PM
21 hrs ago

6 of them. We were children of an Army doctor and went to public schools (the fricking US Government). The stupidity and hypocrisy are too much so I've written them off. I can't afford to go fly and visit anyways so they made that decision easy. I use my extra retirement $ on house upgrades. And donations to Liberal as F organizations.

mdbl

(8,046 posts)
24. I don't even talk to a magat until they face some truths - family or not
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 08:00 PM
20 hrs ago

So far, I haven't found any.

Kablooie

(19,034 posts)
25. Yeah. Republicans can damage everyone's life...
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 08:12 PM
20 hrs ago

Openly, knowing their voters will blame Democrats only.

lucca18

(1,441 posts)
28. I am so disappointed in my niece.
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 08:40 PM
20 hrs ago

My brother who died a few years ago was gay, left our niece some money in his will.
He always maintained a caring relationship with her, even though he knew she was a MAGA.

My other brother (her father) is also MAGA. We are so different.

I was so disheartened today, to come across her post on Twitter, that she posted last year
disparaging the LGBTQ community, and making fun of them.




progressoid

(52,537 posts)
58. That's...
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 12:50 PM
4 hrs ago

"disappointing" seems like an understatement.

I have a former friend from my youth who has estranged himself from his siblings because of his anti-LGBTQ stance. One of his sisters is lesbian.
I now am friendly with his siblings and rarely talk to him.

FormerOstrich

(2,868 posts)
29. When I can't avoid the conversation
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 09:17 PM
19 hrs ago

(with the family members only...anyone else I can exclude) I ask them to explain what they mean.

For instance, how are they "holding it up". Is the Speaker of the house trying to get a vote? Pretend you don't know and ask for details to explain those talking points. I'll act like I don't know and need it all explained to me...exactly.

Ultimately you can start introducing a little fact checking as you go along but gently. I doubt I change their mind about anything, but they don't want to have a dialog with me anymore except about the dogs,pets, gardens, and stuff like that there. (said Huckleberry Hound).

Maru Kitteh

(31,218 posts)
33. She didn't use to be like this but she CHOOSES to be like this *now. It's
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 10:05 PM
18 hrs ago

HER choice to be like this. We have plenty of this in our family too, and I’m not trying to be antagonistic here, but I really think the fact that she has made the decision that she wants to be this way is something you kind of need to sit with a little bit. It’s not all his fault. She is a grown person. She made a decision. This is her.



IbogaProject

(5,579 posts)
34. The GOP has everything to do w that happening
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 10:25 PM
18 hrs ago

President, GOP
Senate, GOP
House, Gop
Supreme Court, GOP because of the GOP.

Tell your sister she is getting exactly what she voted for.

CousinIT

(12,192 posts)
49. It will not stop until/unless they wise up. I couldn't "overlook" it anymore and stopped speaking to my
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 09:55 AM
6 hrs ago

MAGA relatives over a year ago. No contact.

Life is more peaceful that way. They are toxic, and I can't deal with them.

underpants

(194,683 posts)
53. so far up Trump's ass they know the brand of orange make-up he wears.
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 10:26 AM
6 hrs ago

That’s a great line.

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