Stop saying "single mothers"

[CousinIT]

This illustrates how the language of our most often sexist and anti-woman, slut-and responsibility-shaming society demonizes women.

[3catwoman3]

1. Excellent point.

[WhiskeyGrinder]

2. Single moms are single for all sorts of reasons, and just because she's a "single mom" doesn't mean the dad isn't in the

picture. Not sure what this accomplishes.

[Skittles]

6. pointing out sexism doesn't mean you "hate men"

you're giving yourself away

[Skittles]

11. LOL

sure, bro

[Quiet Em]

15. It's referring to absentee fathers.

I don't think anyone considers a deceased father or mother to be an absentee mother or father.

[Quiet Em]

12. Single mother, single father, single parent in my understanding has always been meant as the sole parent

Perhaps because they are widowed, or for whatever reason they and the child/children do not have any relationship with the other parent.

If Dad or Mom are in the picture with the parent who has custody of the children they are co-parents, not single parents.

Single means the only, the sole, parent.

[Bluejeans]

3. My father - a Dad, Grandpa and Great-Grandpa - used to ask a "drop-dead question"....

My father - a Dad, Grandpa and Great-Grandpa - used to ask a "drop-dead question"....

Where are the IMPREGNATORS!"

There's a loaded question for those absentee fathers, I mean, "impregnators"!

[Skittles]

5. divorced dads are only a "problem" if they don't help to support their child

"staying together for the sake of the kids" is often way, way worse for them than divorce

[Seinan Sensei]

7. This is akin to saying "bastard child"

There’s no such thing.
There ARE “bastard parents,” however

[Skittles]

9. or "illegitimate"

WTF, all babies are LEGITIMATE

[Renew Deal]

8. Doesn't this assume the father had a choice?

I know multiple current cases where a parent died. It’s tragic.

[calimary]

14. Damn straight!!!

Here’s to giving the blame where the blame is due.

[NH Ethylene]

16. Absolutely not.

Single mothers OR fathers should just be called single parents.

Neither parent should be automatically deemed a problem when the parents split up.

There are plenty of fathers who are very involved in parenting even if they are not living with them any longer, and there are plenty of fathers who pay child support. And there are plenty of mothers who wear the 'single mother' badge as a source of pride and as a sign of strength and perseverance.

People who say 'single mother' with disdain should be completely disregarded. MAGA 'values' should not drive our paths or our language.

[stopdiggin]

17. if the term 'single mother' is shallow, 'targeting' and singularly undescriptive ...

the assumption that the sole (or even overwhelmingly likely) reason for it lies in a male/father - that self evidently bailed ....

Is equally shallow - vapid - and, yes, defamatory.

This meme is not nearly the 'own' that some apparently thought ...

[Quiet Em]

18. absentee was the key word. If a parent, a Mom or Dad is absentee

than they are not involved.

Single in this meaning is not a relationship status, it's an indication of being the sole or only parent.

[stopdiggin]

23. how about a person that is serving in the military

been involuntarily deported - or perhaps incarcerated .. ? (or any one of ten other different circumstances - including the 'biological' that was never informed and/or invited to participate)

You're still making a boatload of assumptions - and casting aspersion without good evidence.
It remains just too simplistic - and just not a great argument. (in my humble opinion)

[Quiet Em]

24. If both parents are active and not absentee in their children's lives

then they are co-parents, not single parents.

Serving in the military, being deported, or being incarcerated does not prevent one from being involved in the lives of their children. Perhaps it could do so financially, but not emotionally.

Absentee means completely absent. Not present at all. Not involved at all. Not a part of.

[BeneteauBum]

19. I am a single father

Thirty three years ago, I couldn’t no longer stand the abuse directed at me and my three daughters. Took the mother to court and, after 3 1/2 years, was awarded custody. My two oldest are 47 now with wonderful families. The youngest will be 36 soon and is a happily married parent.

I was always proud to be a single dad with three daughters. Many people I encountered along the way were amazed that I took on the responsibility. My Dad was of the opinion that.saved the kids……and I’m still single.
So when the moniker ‘single parent’ is used, I have a great deal of respect for the responsibility that person has accepted. Pay it forward.

Peace ☮️

[Doodley]

20. And if the father died? And if the father isn't the one responsible for the breakup in the relationship? This looks

like more man-hating in my opinion.

[littlemissmartypants]

21. Sometimes, single women are mothers by choice. Wouldn't they indeed be "single mothers?"

[Quiet Em]

22. Yes, they are single mothers by choice

But many other single parents are single parents not by choice.

Single mothers draw a lot of negative connotation. Single fathers, not as much. I believe that is the point.