My dad has been referred to a palliative facility for hospice care.

[Pacifist Patriot]

The doctors have been wonderfully direct, honest, and compassionate simultaneously. It's clear we're talking days not weeks or months. Everyone involved is clear eyed about that.

He's been telling anyone who enters his hospital room that he's celebrating his 60 year 6 month anniversary with the woman of his dreams today. I have never taken my good fortune to be his daughter for granted a single day of my life. We are a no drama warm progressive family and no one could hand pick better. If you're religious, we've been blessed. If you're not, the draw of the universe fell in our favor.

We're talking about a man who survived polio in 1954, the Vietnam war in 1969, throat cancer in 1995, bladder cancer in 2006, a heart valve replacement in 2013 and lung cancer gets him in the end. He's my Energizer Bunny, my inspiration, my biggest cheerleader, and the best model of what it means to be a patriot. The man showed up at every No King's Rally, including the most recent one on March 28 after his terminal diagnosis. Because that's how important the future of our country is.

But GOD FUCKING DAMMIT!!!! I really wanted him to witness Trump's demise before he left this earth. And I know he did too...(and so do the lot of his absolutely phenomenal can't say enough good things about them care team - no secrets in the PCU!)

Thanks for listening. I'm the one holding the family together right now so just needed to let it out somewhere. Whew

[MustLoveBeagles]

1. I'm sorry

At least he lived a good life. Hugs and condolences to you. I'll send you some healing vibes.

[ms liberty]

2. Sending you vibes, strength, and healing. Been there and it hurts.

[democrank]

3. Your Dad sounds like a gem.

Treasure every moment you have with him. Sending strength and love.

[Maeve]

4. Take as much time with him as you can and share good memories

I was the only one with my mom and she went moments after I was told she was dying (less than 24 hours after the fall that killed her).
Treasure the time you have left, and don't second guess any decisions.

May you and your family bask in the love you have for each other and may memory be a blessing now and in the future.

[littlemissmartypants]

5. Nothing prepares us. Stay encouraged, Pacifist Patriot. ❤️

[mcar]

6. May he have a peaceful journey

He sounds like a wonderful man - and you are wonderful kid! I've been in your shoes. It's so hard. But he's in the right place and surrounded by love.

And hey, maybe his wish will come true!

[SheltieLover]

7. Healing vibes on the way to you and your family

[AltairIV]

8. My deepest and most sincere condolences.

Your father sounds like a wonderful man. as time passes may your memories of him warm your heart.

[virgdem]

9. Sending you and family peaceful vibes

as you care for your Dad in his last days.❤️

[brer cat]

10. I'm sorry you are going through this difficult time.

I'm sending my best wishes for comfort and peace for him as he completes this journey, as well as for you and your family.

[malaise]

11. Too sad

I wish him peace and offer you and yours comfort.

[RT Atlanta]

12. sending patience, love and peace to you, your Dad and family

cherish the time you have.

[Figarosmom]

13. Sounds like he had a good family

To spend his life with. I'm sure he's secure in knowing you and the rest of your family will be successful in ridding our nation of the orange menace. Let him rest now. Love and Peace.

[BComplex]

14. Pacifist Patriot, I am so sorry for your loss.

What a remarkable man, and what a remarkable family he and your mom built together. I'm sending warm and supportive hugs to you through the ether here, and a special hug to your dad for all he has done.

[Ninga]

15. Your op touched my heart. A lovely tribute from

a loving offspring- it’s all we can hope for. A blessing indeed. Peace be with your Dad and your family. May the days ahead
land gently.

[Grim Chieftain]

16. Sending warmest wishes for strength and peace

as you and your loved ones face this difficult time. You are in my thoughts, Pacifist Patriot.

[mgardener]

17. My thoughts are with you and your family

[calimary]

18. Hey Pacifist Patriot - here's a hug:

(((((((((((( * )))))))))))).

Glad you posted this here. I know there’s TONS of sympathy, empathy, and solidarity surrounding you from us at DU.

You’re exactly the kind of support he needs right now. And you’re being loving and supportive as can be. Just know you’re loved and cared about, ESPECIALLY with this difficult journey ahead of you. Please do post how it’s going, and keep us updated as much as you can (although I know you have other priorities on your mind right now). Everybody here will understand.

Sending lots of hugs and vibes of strength.

And if it’ll help, remember what DUer Skittles once said: “someone’s always here.” You won’t be going through this alone.

[cate94]

19. I'm sorry

He sounds like a wonderful man. May his passing be peaceful.

[AllaN01Bear]

20. ""

[redwitch]

21. I'm so sorry you are losing your wonderful dad.

A virtual hug to you friend.

[MLAA]

22. Dad will have a ring side seat to watch TSF's demise and will likely still be at all the protests across the country all

at once until the entire lot of them are gone. I’m not religious but I certainly believe strongly in the beyond. ❤️

In the mean time may his passing be gentle and I’m sending your family the warmest wishes and hugs.

[JoseBalow]

23. I'm so sorry you're going this heartache

I know how painful and difficult this time is for you. I very recently went through a similar situation with my partner, and there is not much that can be said to help make it any better. Try to take some comfort in knowing that you are not alone, and there are people who care.

Please try to make the effort to be kind to yourself.

[Permanut]

34. And the same to you, JoseBalow..

I'm sorry for your loss; kind thoughts coming your way, special delivery.

[JoseBalow]

40. Thank you, that means a lot to me

It's hard to carry the weight alone.

[Permanut]

42. That shows what a big heart you have.

[Pacifist Patriot]

55. Thank you

I'm very sorry for your loss, yes, words fail, don't they?

[JoseBalow]

63. Yes, they do

But it does help to know you're not alone, and that someone cares. Just being able to feel that connection makes a difference. We will survive this. One step at a time.

[HeartsCanHope]

24. Sending you, your father, and your family love and light.

Will be keeping you all in my thoughts.

[Danmel]

25. I'm so sorry

Cherish the time you have together .

[Katinfl]

26. You are blessed to have had him as your father. We should all be so lucky to have someone like that in our life.

You will have wonderful memories to get you through the tough days ahead.

[applegrove]

27. Your Dad sounds like a great egg.

[GentryDixon]

28. I'm very sorry.

[yellow dahlia]

29. My condolences to you and your family.

Thank you for sharing a little bit of your dad with us.

[ZDU]

30. Keeping y'all in my thoughts

... and sending waves of compassion and healing to you and your loved ones too

[markie]

31. we are here to listen....

[Permanut]

32. What a great tribute, Pacifist Patriot..

and what a guy. We're never ready for these cycles of life. We celebrate him and his life now, and we will celebrate for him later.

[electric_blue68]

33. So sorry! Strength to you all.

He's gone through a lot.
Sounds like a great guy.
Treasure each last moments togther.
Recall the best times.
Gentle

(I've been there)

[a kennedy]

35. ♥️ ♥️ ♥️

It’s all been said here…….savor the good times, let him know how much he means to you, and just love him. 🙏🏻 ♥️

[hamsterjill]

36. He must be an extraordinary man

To have raised a daughter like you. Family is everything. The definition of family can be whatever anyone chooses it to be, whether biological or whatever.

I am so sorry for your situation. Like you, I had a dad that I looked up to and his loss was a hard thing. I wish your father a safe and peaceful passing when that time comes. Cherish every minute. Say what needs to be said, if anything. And just love one another.

Peace and comfort to you

[senseandsensibility]

37. Sending you strength and peace

I hope you and your dad can find both. Hang in there, Pacific Patriot.

[Raine]

38. I'm so sorry

much love to you and your family and peace to him as he takes this journey.

[sinkingfeeling]

39. I'm so sorry. Spend as much time with him as you can.

[LetMyPeopleVote]

41. About 10 years ago, my former father in law went into palliative care

He had been in a hospital for several months. The palliative care doctors came in and recommended hospice. My kids and my ex-wife sort of nominated me to explain to my ex-mother-in-law and ex-father-in-law what this meant. The palliative care doctors were great but this was still no fun

The hospice was great. I remember making daily trips. My ex-mother-in-law basically camped out at the hospice. My ex-father-in-law had worked for former mayor Sylvester Turner who came to visit him. There is a concept in hospice care of the last good day. My ex-father in law's last good day was when Mayor Turner came to the Hospice. My ex-father-in-law was alert and had a great visit. The next day he declined drastically and had passed within the week.

I am sorry for your father. Hopefully you will get to spend some time with him at the hospice.

[niyad]

43. Holding you and your family and your care team in light and love.

Vibes for a gentle crossing, and peace and healing for all of you.

And, who knows, he may still see the orange scum gone!

[c-rational]

44. Your Dad sounds like a wonderful man, and you are doing a great job.

[Skittles]

45. oh my

[area51]

46. I'm so sorry.

[Dear_Prudence]

47. Laying one's burden down

We must all lay our burden down sometime-when we falter and at life's end. We find peace in the faith that our friends, family, and community, including the DU community, will carry on in our absence. I wish you and your family peace during this difficult time. Thank you for sharing your dad's story, beautiful.

[seta1950]

48. We are in the same boat

My husband has stage 4 that has metastasized to his bones, take one step at a time and dead breaths. I’m sorry 😢

[Pacifist Patriot]

54. I'm so sorry to hear that.

It's a shifty boat to be in, isn't?

[flamingdem]

49. Holding you and your dad in my thoughts

There may still be time. We might get some clarity on the future soon. There might be real hope.

[state of stupid]

50. Been there, done that. First time with my father, next time with my mother,

then with my father-in-law, then with my mother-in-law, then with my wife. I have a niece for
my final days, but she does not like talking about it. Please remember that this is not about you,
it is about them. Do everything you can in this time to remember who they are/were and celebrate
every second you can with no hesitation or regret. When it is all said and done, they will live on in
your and everyone who loved them memories. The pain stings every now and then but the memories
of whom they were and what they stood for erases a lot that pain and replaces it with a contentment
that cannot be explained, only felt.

[Pacifist Patriot]

56. Thank you, that is the perspective of the family.

It's all about what he needs and wants right now.

We lost my father-in-law a year and a half ago. It never gets easier, just different circumstances each time.

[LoisB]

51. It sounds as if both he and you possess the strength for this journey. May

The Universe take good care of him.

[biocube]

52. ...

[gademocrat7]

53. Sending love, hugs and prayers

To you and your family.

[essaynnc]

57. Sorry for the loss of such a strong and wonderful guy !!!

Warm thoughts and much strength to the both of you.

[mwmisses4289]

58. Gentle 🫂 to you and your family.

[spanone]

59. K&R

[70sEraVet]

60. So sorry, Pacifist Patriot.

Sounds like the world is losing one of its good ones!
I hope that when its my time, I will have deserved the love of my children as your father obviously has!
That's really the whole point, isn't it? To have loved, and been loved, well.

[Faux pas]

61. Sending you and your family

the best Universal Vibes!

[maliaSmith]

62. Your dad

I'm sending lots of hugs to you, and your family. First, I say thank God for Hospice. My wonderful sister had her last days with us with Hospice help. It's so sad to lose our family members, but with Hospice help, we can share last days while our loved ones are comfortable at home. Remember the wonderful times.

[Buzz cook]

64. Hospice was the best thing that happened to my dad.

The quality and amount of care increase dramatically.

[gopher fixer]

65. I wish that everyone had what your family has

You really do sound blessed. I hope that at the end no one in your family is burdened with thinking about politics. There will never be enough stability in American political life to make it feel like anyone has "won" anything, so there's no point pinning happiness to it. Even if he was able to arrange it so that he passes on the best day of Obama's Presidency there'd still be some bummer to fuss over, some republican storm cloud on the horizon. This world and the White House and every last seat in Congress will burn eventually, but I have to believe that love is eternal, I hope your family focuses on that when you release that beautiful man to eternity.

[ancianita]

67. What calimary said, PP, adding love, hugs and a prayer for peace for him, you, and the family.

[Deuxcents]

68. This part of the cycle of life is tough to take

But none of us escape the sorrow but those tender moments are so precious at the close of time for our loved ones. My sincere wish for you and your family is the peaceful and proud moments together as you celebrate your father’s life and his legacy 🌺

[orleans]

69. my heart goes out to you -- it can be the most stressful, the most difficult, the saddest of times

to part ways in this lifetime.
but i don't believe they go far -- when i went through something similar with my mom years ago it didn't take her very long to let me know she was still with me, around me.
but when she was in the process of leaving this life it was the hardest and most heartbreaking thing i'd ever gone through. i told her it was okay for her to let go (something i never told my father because i was much younger and didn't quite understand the inevitable at that point).

your dad sounds like a great guy and he's surrounded by a lot of love.