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bif

(24,132 posts)
Tue Dec 10, 2024, 03:54 PM Tuesday

Bizarre conversation I just had with an old friend.

We were pretty good friends back in the day. Then we sort of lost touch, mainly because we were caught up raising families and such. I called him about 4 or 5 years ago and we got caught up. Then I decided to give him a call, what with it being the holidays and all. Here's how it went:

Me: Hey "T", how's it going? Haven't spoken in a while and I thought I'd give you a call and catch up with you.
T: I have nothing to say to you. And I'm at work.
Me: Huh? Maybe we could chat at another time and figure out what the problem is here.
T: I have no reason to ever talk to you again.
Me: Have a nice life. Bye.

WTF do you make of that? It was like being sucker punched. We've never had a fight. Mainly because we haven't spoken much in the last 10 years. I just don't get it.

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bif

(24,132 posts)
2. Nope. He's a good Democrat.
Tue Dec 10, 2024, 04:04 PM
Tuesday

Plus he's so old school, so the only social media he does is FB. And I quit that years ago.

JoseBalow

(5,483 posts)
14. Maybe he was a good Dem, but isn't anymore?
Tue Dec 10, 2024, 05:11 PM
Tuesday

People change sometimes.

It sucks to lose old friends, but this guy sounds like a jerk, so you're probably better off.

Blues Heron

(6,193 posts)
3. people can be really weird, especially in this day and age
Tue Dec 10, 2024, 04:04 PM
Tuesday

Ive had a few `friends` refuse to answer emails, but nothing like what your friend said. That is effed up for sure. Whatever it is, its not you.

bif

(24,132 posts)
6. I know, I even asked my younger daughter
Tue Dec 10, 2024, 04:09 PM
Tuesday

"Have I turned into an asshole?"
And she said, absolutely not. And she reminded me that I taught her to be brutally honest. Especially when it comes to me.

magicarpet

(16,747 posts)
10. He did you a favor with the royal brush off.
Tue Dec 10, 2024, 04:22 PM
Tuesday

He does not value your attempts at a more meaningful friendship. Heed his advice and move on without wasting one more second trying to ascertain what motivated him to treat you so rudely.

Happy Holidays

bluestarone

(18,335 posts)
11. I don't know, but
Tue Dec 10, 2024, 04:28 PM
Tuesday

Maybe something in your last communication with him struck one of his nerves? Think back i'd say.

mitch96

(14,712 posts)
12. Well he got some information that did not sit well with him..Since he wont say what it is, it's his problem.
Tue Dec 10, 2024, 04:51 PM
Tuesday

Brush off without explanation sounds like he has a personal issue that is uncomfortable for him to talk about....Again, his problem..
I had a similar situation with an old friend. Buddies since our late teens. We had the same interests and hobbies. He slowly turned from liberal to neutral to asshole conservative over the years. Long story short I kept telling him to stop sending me his mindless forwarded right wing emails and meme bullshit.
Then one day he just said he has had enough, good bye, don't call or try to get in touch..
At least him and I know why he wanted to end the friendship...... politics...
Strange as I have other conservative friends and the trick for us is we don't talk politics. everything else is fair game...

bif

(24,132 posts)
13. My guess is it's his dissatisfaction with the way his life has turned out.
Tue Dec 10, 2024, 04:57 PM
Tuesday

He's bounced around working for one non-profit after another. Just scraped by. He got divorced many years ago and I don't know how much his kids talk to him. I've lived a fairly comfortable life. Decent career and a close family. That's just a guess. But since we don't talk, I'm not sure if he's jealous of my situation or not. Not that I'm rich or anything.

ProfessorGAC

(70,303 posts)
15. File Under "What Can You Do?"
Tue Dec 10, 2024, 08:05 PM
Tuesday

Unprovoked dismissal. I wouldn't bother to try to figure it out. Life happens. Some things we can't explain.

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