Passive-Aggressive BS

[Not Heidi]

Mick is a guy I met in the partial hospitalization program I was in a couple of years ago. Somehow he learned that he and I lived on the same street.

He appeared at my door a couple of times, asking for money for food. Being who I am, how could I say no? I gave him a twenty the first time he asked; a ten the second. But my wife was pissed - not at me but at Mick.

The next time the doorbell rang after dark, Kathy answered the door. They got into a heated argument in which several "fuck yous" were thrown about. He hasn't come to the door since then.

However, we believe he's come to our house to vandalize things. My front license plate was bent twice. Our trash and recycling bins* were moved to the driveway, directly behind my car. (Minor, but irritating.)

The latest insult was that we found the backyard flooded one afternoon. Our sprinklers don't work, but they seep at an astounding rate. Little fish could've swam among the grass, I swear.

We've bought a group of tiny cameras to put up around the outside of our house, but none of us can figure out how they work. I think my music teacher can figure it out (this just occurred to me: if he can teach me music theory so that I can understand it, surely he can figure out our cameras).

How passive-aggressive is this BS?!

* The member of our household whose job it is to bring in the bins does so in the dark of morning as they don't like to be seen.

[Easterncedar]

1. Nothing passive about it

[Not Heidi]

4. Agreed. N/P

[bucolic_frolic]

2. Wow, that is annoying

Maybe not a 10-alarm fire, but more than concerning. No one can tell you what to do exactly because his behavior is unknowable. I think you're doing the right things with the cameras, get them operational. Personally if it were me, I'd have a chat with the local police chief to ascertain the manner in which regulations, laws are enforced. I'd emphasize I don't want to escalate, perhaps initially not even ID the identity of the source of vandalism/harassment (because that's what it is). And ask for guidance to calm things down. You just want to be left alone, live your lives as always, and not have problems for anyone.

That's my 2 cents. But you do as you see fit.

[Not Heidi]

3. Thank you, BF.

I appreciate your thoughts.

[Niagara]

5. Problematic neighbors are the worst

I use to watch this YouTube channel from "Homesteading Off The Grid". He's an intelligent man with a wonderful family.


Here's how he explains what lead up to the problematic neighbor or you can just skip to timestamp 13:25 when he reveals his solution.

To make a long story short, I stopped subscribing and watching his content several years due to political comments that he would make. The reason why I watched his channel to begin with was to avoid politics.