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Related: About this forumWe don't have a dementia or death group........I think we should have both, JMHO
as my husband of 44 years did die of late term dementia today. Had the damn disease for about 4 years, he died this morning at 9:15 or so……I missed his passing by 15 minutes. We all knew it was coming, he hadn’t eaten or really drank anything for 3 days or so. I felt so lucky to at least feel the cooling of his body. Was at least there for that. Funny how you can feel the warmth of his alive body pass into the cold of his death. I have been missing him for at least the last year or so. He forgot a ton of stuff and I couldn’t carry on a conversation with him for a long time. It’s just so sad what that damn disease does to a person. I’m alone now for real without him. He was mentally gone but his death is so permanent and total now.

NewHendoLib
(61,055 posts)BoomaofBandM
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Biophilic
(5,443 posts)snowybirdie
(5,978 posts)May you be at peace soon. We're at the beginning of this journey. Your fortitude gives me hope.
WA-03 Democrat
(3,295 posts)Most folks know or have someone close in their life and are dealing with these issues. Dementia is bitch. It would be good to have both groups!
onecaliberal
(36,594 posts)Peaceful vibes to you.
XanaDUer2
(15,714 posts)I read your other thread. RIP
sheshe2
(90,973 posts)Dem2theMax
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Fla Dem
(26,416 posts)May peace now be with you.
japple
(10,459 posts)I am living thru this now with my sister and it is, as you said, so sad what this disease does to a person. You are not alone, though. We are here for you and with you.
AKwannabe
(6,693 posts)We are here for ya!
yobrault1
(172 posts)Warpy
(113,131 posts)but I agree we need a dementia group for both caregivers and for people in the early stages who are coping the best they can.
Joinfortmill
(17,694 posts)If it isn't impertinent to say, he is likely still with you. At least that has been my experience with some of my deceased loved ones.
surfered
(5,855 posts)irisblue
(34,862 posts)I have posted in the Bereavement group and found that helpful. I posted earlier this week
https://democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1234
NNadir
(35,429 posts)Wild blueberry
(7,524 posts)Hard to lose him twice. May his memory be a blessing and may you--after a while--begin to remember him as he was.
For now, please take good care of yourself and accept help and love from friends and loved ones.
Omaha Steve
(104,994 posts)I'm on Trazodone. Research in Europe shows it slows the advance of FTD.
https://www.theaftd.org/
I am sorry for your loss.
OS
phylny
(8,719 posts)markie
(23,247 posts)Yes, caregiving and/or having a loved one with dementia is difficult... I was a caregiver for years... one being my father with dementia... it helps tremendously to have people to talk to