Fathers' Day

[no_hypocrisy]

I'm not celebrating.

It's not because my father passed six years ago.

I wasn't celebrating when he was alive as well.

My father was abusive, toxic, and an authoritarian. I was defiant and stood up to him and paid the price. My sister was 180 degrees and sucked up to him, if only for fear, esp. as she saw the treatment I got. I went to therapy for 3-1/2 years and still had malingering issues concerning him.

I was the one of three children who stayed close to where he lived until the end of his life, if only for the duty to our late mother, to make sure he was okay.

He disinherited all of us at the end. He showed more affection for the neighbor across the street than he did for any of us, including our sister.

The trauma must be equally deep in our sister. In denial. She posted on FB: "Forever loved, not forgotten." I can only endorse the second part.

[Freedomofspeech]

1. It is awful how much damage a bad parent can do....

Sending you love and peace.

[no_hypocrisy]

2. Thanks. The abuse has stopped. The pain is ebbing away.

[Golden Raisin]

3. Totally understand and wish you healing.

Father's Day is always hard for me as mine was narcissistic, cold, severe, emotionally abusive, etc. He died when I was 16. I'm now 70 and still have emotional scars. It has lessened over the years.

[no_hypocrisy]

5. Hugs to you as a compatriot.

My father too was a narcissist.

My outrage has softened but not lessened.

I often say that I'm not afraid to die and go to Hell as I know I'll see Dad again and REALLY tell him what I think about him.

[cpamomfromtexas]

4. I can totally identify

[vercetti2021]

6. I can totally relate

My dad was very emotionally abusive to me and that lead me down a bad path in life