I miss my old therapist

[I_UndergroundPanther]

Laurie. She was so kind to me,helped so much.
The therapist I have now doesnt know how to treat trauma. All she does is give me new age religion.

I dunno if it has dawned on her Im not the believer type and positivity think has no bearing on reality no matter how much you tell yourself it does. Abd karma is just more religion.

I feel like shes scared of the darkness inside me,scared I dont believe,scared of my anger and scared I can feel hate.

She avoids these topics.

Laurie helped and accepted it as part of my past I needed to work through. Laurie said the first time I met her that she accepts my anger and I burst into tears in the damn hallway. Laurie didnt push CBT down my throat as if its a cure all. For me CBT it feels like manipulation,denial and it makes me angry and unable to trust my current therapist.

I asked my current therapist to help me find a trauma therapist
She was useless.she says its better to just move on from the past. I never heard something so stupid in my life.

I have PTSD and dissociative identity how in the hell is denial gonna help??!!

I'm about to tell her to listen to me,if she cant listen,to even the darkness well I'll have to seek out a therapist.

And I will tell her how incompetent she really is before I go. And back it up with actual psychology.

[3Hotdogs]

1. Keep in mind, you are the boss/contractor. You can fire her.

I don't know that you need to tell her she's incompetent but you can tel her, "Today is my last session. I don't think you are helping me."

[fierywoman]

3. This. Fire her and find someone who can help. You already know from your

previous therapist that there are good ones. I wish with all my heart that you find someone -- soon! -- who will help you.

[OldBaldy1701E]

2. You do what you have to do.

The last psychiatrist I saw was a complete asshat. I was at the county place where they tossed a bottle of pills at me and then, after a three month wait, I got to see someone. He spent the entire time trying to get me to run out, get a job, and then go to his private practice and pay him for what he was supposed to be doing at that very moment. My inability to 'run out and get a job' was part of the reason I was there. After two 'sessions' of this, I let him have both barrels and walked out. (That is a metaphor, by the way. I did not scream or anything, but I guarantee that wall behind him was blistered when I left.) There is no help for 96% of the population because they cannot afford real help. So, I don't try anymore, because it will only lead to anger and despair. Not that I don't have plenty of that already, but why add to the inferno? That was 22 years ago.

[SheltieLover]

4. Psychology Today has a great listing for therapists

Search (google) your area or zip code with trauma therapy & see what comes up. I don't think there is a search function inthe listing service, except by zip code.

Dissociative Identity is a topic few know how to work with, so you might want to do a search with this term & your zip.

I think you will feel quite empowered to find a new therapist!