I needed to see this today

[irisblue]

Link to tweet

[SheltieLover]

1. Great info!

Ty for sharing.

[OldBaldy1701E]

2. Well, there is a part of me

That feels that if I do not have any control over the outcome of my efforts, then why put forth any effort? I am thinking that this is more a reference to the effect those efforts have on others. But, if I build a sturdy house, It had better be a sturdy house when I am done.

[nuxvomica]

3. The Second Agreement of Don Miguel Ruiz is a useful reminder

The Second Agreement – DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
https://www.sunshinecoasthealthcentre.ca/the-5-agreements-by-don-miguel-ruiz/

It's not always doable but I try to keep it in mind, especially the part about everyone living in their own dream.

[judesedit]

5. Along with the other three

Always do your best
Never assume
Don't lie to yourself or others

Awesome book, "The Four Agreements". Easy reading, too.

Thanks for bringing that up. 👍

[Backseat Driver]

13. I'd include "Be careful what you promise" n/t

[Ferrets are Cool]

4. Somewhat snarky, but you left out "my body"

if you are female.

[Mousetoescamper]

6. This is useful. Thanks!

[chia]

7. I like this... but I think a lot of pain comes from not being able to control thoughts adequately,

so how much are our thoughts actually are in our control?

[BlueSky3]

8. I think a lot of us worry about

things we can’t control. I have a friend who is an intelligent woman who has untreated high blood pressure. Makes no sense, but she’ll go to a doctor when she’s good and ready — or when she ends up in the ER.

[highplainsdem]

9. Thanks! This is very important. And I want to add that it's also

important to focus as much as possible on what we can be grateful for, rather than situations that upset us and are outside our control.

Google

mental health gratitude

With the political theme of this forum, we're inevitably focused a lot on situtaions we can't control, or might be able to control only with a massive and/or long-term effort.

But we need to balance that focus, and frustration, with as much focus as possible on the things we can be grateful for, whether the bigger things or what's enjoyable as a distraction (funny tweets and cartoons, for instance, or music, or cat memes, or whatever helps).

[rubbersole]

11. + 1

[niyad]

10. Excellent!

[Backseat Driver]

12. I need this chart on a card in my pocket and wallet.

My nature is to "help" and I struggle w/boundaries and co-dependency issues, especially w/family members, and what part I play in setting up my own disasters with relationships at the request or under the control of "others" who don't seem to ever worry about the consequences down the road versus "right now" because me, the helper, is always around. It's not always clear who needs to clean up their own messes and beliefs about who and what they are. I'm also of an age now where my dreams no longer matter?

Good thing I try to practice gratitude for that which is still good -- food, shelter, relative good health, a nearby family, things that bring joy, a safe time and place to cry, and a working computer and phone with which to communicate with friends, some of whom I've never met.

Happy Thanksgiving, irisblue, and all others at DU! I wish you all blessings of abundance as you celebrate this national holiday.