Useful idiot Part 2
Last edited Thu Sep 7, 2023, 07:24 PM - Edit history (3)
Husband went to pick my sister and mother up and took them to the meeting with the doctor at UPMC. I did not go. the hysterectomy was normal again told that it was not malignant cancer and did not spread. I go to the ER on Saturday with a Blood Oxygen of 86. They gave me an IV and tested me for covid. I have it. Also got an inhaler. Sweaty and tired. Phone rings. It is my sister. She states that she has Stage 3 Malignant cancer and no was is telling her except my cousin,(a nurses aid) the receptionist at the primary doctor and the radiologist, I had it with her and said that she didn't and what does she have to gain by saying this. It turned into a screaming match. My mother got on the phone. I put my husband on the phone as he was in pre-med for 4 years and was there at the meeting. He gets no where with my mother, who insists along with my sister that she has Stage 3 cancer. It is almost what she wants. With the scopes and hysterectomy she is asking for 3 months off.None of the other people have seen the pathology report. And it is clear. I, for my own mental health, have decided to cut ties.I have received no calls from them. My sister keeps calling the hospital for the truth. I don't know what to do. Naturally, mother, had to tell my husband what a rotten man he is by not coming up to visit my Father, who is bed bond, because he had knee surgery and refused to do his physical therapy. He was also an abuser. Took a hunting rifle to my head and told me he would blow my brains out. Punched me in the mouth at 3 and knocked my baby teeth out. One other thing, when I did get in the car with my sister and mother, I smelled a strange smell. I threw up in the car. My husband said it was cat piss. I had never smelled it on a person before. thank you, Debbie Got a call while I was walking Dolly. Husband answered it. Mother calls to say Diane does have Malignant cancer Stage 3A, They are still deciding how to proceed--another operation. Chemo or radiation. I am still crying . Mother says I owe my sister an apology to saying the story was fishy from the beginning. You would think that UPMC, which is known for its cancer treatment would still be waiting on how to proceed. this is a never ending story. Sometimes I wish I would go to sleep and never wake up. 
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I think you’ve made the right decision about cutting ties with abusive mother and sister. From reading your posts on the subject, it sounds to me like it needs to be 100% cut not just cutting back. Has your husband also suggested you completely remove yourself from any relationship with both your sister and mother?
You can now focus on your and your husband’s health and happiness knowing you have tried everything. Block their numbers and don’t answer numbers you don’t recognize.
Families can help so much but not when they are dysfunctional. At least you have your husband and I have my mom. All my relatives that are left except for my mom are not helpful. I myself am finding myself hopeless right now. Two months in hotels (hotels not of my choosing) paid for our the house buyers and we got below half of what I expected for my our house. What I thought I would get wasn’t much but would have kept us going. I don’t know a way out of being on the street soon. My mom and I just want to have a home. I think people here would understand a GoFundMe for this but I wonder if it is best to start it in this group. The people who have attacked me on DU have also attacked others with problems. Been too busy to be on DU but must post this.
And hope things improve for you Deb.