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XanaDUer2

(14,336 posts)
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 11:21 AM Nov 26

My "partner"

I'm sitting here headaches bouncing around my skull. I thought i felt my right eye twitch. I was in perfect health before the aggressive jaw action by the dentist. Not only did it never "settle down" it seems to be spreading. And jaw pain still.

I know my body. I know this started with jaw pain immediately after the injury. My partner is telling me its arthritis, there is no proof this is from the dr... I'm going to an Ent mid december. Still awaiting neurology. Lawyer told me get imaging. Partner said dentist may "countersue" me. Feeling hopless. Felt my right eye twitch. Know I'll end up in the ER. I KNOW MY BODY. AND I DID NOT HAVE THIS STUFF UNTIL HE PUSHED MY JAW BACK SO HARD. I'm tired of being treated like I'm crazy.

I'm terrified and getting dark thoughts of pain the rest of my life, facial paralysis. Etc. Partner is right wo proof no lawyer will touch the case. I am at the end of my rope. I went in there assuming id get best care from a specialist and this bizarre thing happens

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My "partner" (Original Post) XanaDUer2 Nov 26 OP
Your "partner" is full of crap. Ocelot II Nov 26 #1
I'm so sick of him XanaDUer2 Nov 26 #2
Partner? I thought partners supported us ... marble falls Nov 26 #3
I hate him a lot XanaDUer2 Nov 26 #4
I've never been in a situation like yours. But I do know you are the most important person in your life ... marble falls Nov 26 #5
I'm so scared XanaDUer2 Nov 26 #7
This injury happened about 3 mos ago XanaDUer2 Nov 26 #8
He's 72 and won't leave XanaDUer2 Nov 26 #6
Get a lawyer, get a restaining order. Evict him. Save your life and get this thorn out of your side ... marble falls Nov 26 #9
I am sadly XanaDUer2 Nov 26 #10

XanaDUer2

(14,336 posts)
2. I'm so sick of him
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 11:26 AM
Nov 26

But I'm stuck. I get zero sympathy. I'm terrified. He's in constant pain and says he nvr talks about it. I asked my dr yesterday is it possible the skull can be pushed out of alignment? But it was my jaw pushed back. My ear will go stuffy and I'll have vertigo.

All he does is sit arguing politics all day with strangers on his phone insulting them. I was wrrd he was going to be doxxed.

marble falls

(62,394 posts)
3. Partner? I thought partners supported us ...
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 11:34 AM
Nov 26

My SiL's sister went to a dentist for a filling in a molar. Came out with pain that increased to the point in a week sleep was impossible. the dentist was truly non sympathetic and accused her of looking for narcotics. After close to a month she got x-rays from another Dentist. The first dentist had drilled through her tooth and into he jawbone and put filling all the way down into the bone and didn't pick that up when she had gone back to him to figure out her pain.

There was a lawsuit, and a lot of work to fix the problem.

If you have pain, there is a reason. Meanwhile, I'd take a hard look at my "partner" and decide if there is any value in his being there.

XanaDUer2

(14,336 posts)
4. I hate him a lot
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 11:40 AM
Nov 26

He's paying bills since i became disabled. I'd been supporting him over 20 yrs. He's been on disability since the 90s. I wish i didn't have to wait so long to c the ent. I sit here waiting for my face to go numb and stay sagging. I don't know what to do.

I tell this mother fucker that i was perfectly fine until my jaw was very aggresively pusjhed back to apply a piece of plastic. I was shocked by how hard it was. I was disyressed and said I'm not comfortable with that much pressure on my jaw. He sat back looked at me said the push wasn't hard enough and the jaw is stable. Yet here I am with pain and headaches and nose tingling and ear pain.

marble falls

(62,394 posts)
5. I've never been in a situation like yours. But I do know you are the most important person in your life ...
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 11:49 AM
Nov 26

... please take care of yourself before giving him any consideration at all. His taking care of you is not going any extra mile, it's what a partner does. It's what you did for him, too. He's happy with his stew, but you do not have to swallow it.

Save yourself.

XanaDUer2

(14,336 posts)
7. I'm so scared
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 11:53 AM
Nov 26

Now my eye site seems blurry. If this dentist destroyed me neorologically that's it. I'm checking out for good. I'm not being blind. Fuckface is out smoking. All he cares about is politics. I just told him stfu and leave me alone i don't feel well.

XanaDUer2

(14,336 posts)
8. This injury happened about 3 mos ago
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 11:58 AM
Nov 26

I kept hoping it would resolve like the dentist said. Now i wish it was just jaw pain. I nvr dreamed it could spread. Its like the nerves were compressed or moved or damaged or something.

XanaDUer2

(14,336 posts)
6. He's 72 and won't leave
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 11:50 AM
Nov 26

He paying bills for a place he lives in too. He did give me 7k. He brings up money constantly. I keep offering to pay him back but he won't take it. I asked him in the car for support in this night mare and he said "money"? I said no, emotional support. Why do you bring money up constantly and take your fucking 7k back. He refuses to do so. I've offered ten times.

marble falls

(62,394 posts)
9. Get a lawyer, get a restaining order. Evict him. Save your life and get this thorn out of your side ...
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 12:52 PM
Nov 26

... your health is most important. He's not dependent on you and it seems you are not dependent on him.

XanaDUer2

(14,336 posts)
10. I am sadly
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 12:55 PM
Nov 26

I feel my eye now teitching he comes out taking politics to me its like taking to a sociopath. I'm telling him how

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