So, I have just spent the last three hours trying to find resources that might help us.

[OldBaldy1701E]

And, let me tell you... there are none. Zero. Zilch. Nada.

When the website dedicated to providing information on assistance starts off by saying: 'Seek out relatives and friends.", you know things are beyond bad.

I did not ever consider the fact that our society was going to collapse within my lifetime when I was a young lad looking towards the future. Much less that it would wait until I was old enough to be incapable of handling a 'survival' scenario.

I am so sorry, honey. I failed you from the moment we got together. We were duped by a spoiled little nepo baby and now we are facing the void. I tried to warn you. I was too timid because I did not want to upset you. He was your 'best friend'. You indicated as much. You defended him when I complained. I knew. My gut knew. I let us down by not raising enough of a stink about my concerns. Now, you are suffering so much because there is no one else. You only had one family member and that one has gone crazy. Now, the person who I thought would be there when I am gone turned out to be a turd. I had already lost my family and we moved to a place where no one wants to have anything to do with me. But, I thought you had someone up here. I am all you have. What a joke.

My old friend was right: People really do suck. The ones that don't are so few and far between these days that it is almost not worth trying to form friendships with anyone. I guess I suck as well, since no one wants to do anything with me. I can't blame them. Who wants to hang out with a failure?

Thanks for letting me vent. Time is growing short. Let's hope Gaia will decide to help us. That is about the only place help will come from, I guess.

[XanaDUer2]

1. I'm so sorry

Who is the nepo baby? Musk?

Does this have to do w your landlord? Why is it your fault? Thank god our owner renewed another yr, but its an old beaten-up unit and we're excellent tenants.

Oh my family won't help me. I got that this year.

ETA: minneapolis sounds shitty. Also, have you tried Catholic charities or Jewish family services? Or even craigslist? Can you both live in a room for now? Not to be legalistic, but can legal aid explain your tenants' rights? If it is your LL. he may not be allowed to just kick you out? Its not your fault he wouldn't listen to you. You tried he argued , youre right and now he has to help deal w this problem since he didn't listen. I'm still barely over being stabbed in the back by relatives i thought i could count on.

https://cctwincities.org/

[OldBaldy1701E]

3. Yes, I was describing the landlord of this townhouse.

The guy who lied to us. The guy who made my husband think he was his best friend. The guy who was only interested in one thing and when it did not happen, decided to act like we were a burden. The same guy who was all but begging us to move here now just acts like we are not even in the house. We have until Sept.. If we can't figure out what to do about this by then, we will be in big trouble and out of options. I can offer nothing. I am nothing. My government says I don't matter because we make a few hundred bucks over the line for getting any help. In what has been ranked as the 12th most expensive city to live in.

If it weren't for bad luck... (sing it with me!)

[XanaDUer2]

5. Ok, so you have 6 mos

I would get out of this "i am nothing" mindset bc the gov doesn't gaf about you or me or any average American. I would call catholic charities and JFS tomorrow. They help everyone.

Frankly, the fault lies more w him not listening to you. Not sure about the LL "wanted one thing". If so that's weird. Be glad he ignores you. Id ignore him back and concentrate on finding a place and I wouldn't tell him ANYTHING.

Id also double check that September exit date. If you mean sexual coercion and you're paying rent, you might have a case. Id go balls to the wall to fuck him over if he's blackmailing you all for sex.

[OldBaldy1701E]

7. Nope.

That was his desire in the beginning. He leaned quickly that it was not going to happen. So, he started to change everything we agreed on and pulling away. We came up here at his insistence, and then he acted like he barely knew us. We agreed on a plan once we moved up here and he abandoned it the second he realized that he would not have controlling interest in everything, which meant that he would be expected to carry his own weight and be a responsible roommate.

And the fact that he wasn't gonna get what he wanted. He is a child. The only reason he has survived this long is because he is rich. Imagine thinking that you were moving in and throwing in your lot with what you thought was a quirky adult only to find out that he is a spoiled little brat who has zero practical abilities and even less interest in changing anything that supports his delusion that he is some kind of gift to humanity.

I apologize for all of this. It is what I have been suffering over for the last seven years. I am sure it is partially why I have become much worse as far as my depression and anxiety. Hell, I had never had a panic attack before I moved here. I suffer from anxiety but had never had that occur. It is the same with my husband. He was always a rock before all of this happened.

I am very scared. Very angry as well, but very scared. Thanks again. Venting helps.

[XanaDUer2]

8. Vent away

Frankly, he sounds like a freako sociopath and i would explore tenants' rights in your state.

Yeah, panic attacks. My psych gives me 90 xanax a month and hes retiring and I'm scared the np I'm seeing will cut back bc i have terrible anxiety. You've read extensively of my expensive dental injury. That has sent me into a total tailspin. Things were ok until my jaw popped in Summer 2023.

[Joinfortmill]

2. I prayed for you. I hope things get better

[OldBaldy1701E]

4. Thank you. (n/t)

[XanaDUer2]

6. I checked JFS

I'm not seeing housing but Id contact them anyway. They have a grant for car expenses.

Call 211 too. Again, check Craigslist. As for the LL wanting you out bc he's not getting what he wants, I'm not sure that's legal if you mean sex. You are in a blue area so tenants' rights are probably strong.

[OldBaldy1701E]

9. I appreciate the suggestions.

Bear in mind that there would be issues with going to a faith-based charity. So, that is not feasible but not off the table.

It was the 211 website that told me to try family and friends first. If that is the best they can offer right off of the bat... well...

Right now, we managed to find a decent enough car for very cheap. In fact, the car company does not exist anymore. (Pontiac... never thought I would see the day.) Fortunately, it is the same platform as a Toyota and so there may still be parts for it. It only has two little quirks. One, the damned rain sensor.The wipers just randomly come on. I cannot find a way to turn it off. Two, the radio display is dead. It works just fine, but you have to listen for radio call signs to figure out where you are on the dial. I sincerely hope that a setting does not change. I would be screwed.

It was due to everyone here being so very nice and helping us out that allowed my honey to get to work and back until we found that car. I cannot thank everyone enough for that. I am unable to handle it when he has that look on his face. Like a defeated old general watching his last troops fall on the battlefield and realizing that it is all over. He is turning gray faster these days. It is not solely from age.

[XanaDUer2]

10. But not everything is your fault

Living now is horrible. I sometimes think id b better off dead and that was b4 the orange shitstain came back into office. I don't think you're cursed. Its fine going to religious charities. No one proscylitizes you.

You can call a rental agency too and give them your budget. Id rather be in a boarding house then living w someone who lured you to minneapolis for sex. I get moving to be near a good friend and I'm sorry it turned out like this.

[OldBaldy1701E]

11. Hell, the plan was to basically be like a 'co-op'.

All for one and one for all! That sort of thing. Being an old hippie, and marrying a very eccentric person, we were all about the 'strength in numbers' idea. But, we are both fooled and a bit naive. When one is seldom around such aspects of humanity, one tends to always look for the good in people and expect them to be the same way. It can make one blind to our modern world.

I suppose that is why I have such venom for these lecherous vultures. Always trying to get something for nothing. Looking at other people as either targets or idols. All are objects to such people. No humanity in them.