Test your self-compassion level

[tama]

http://www.self-compassion.org/test-your-self-compassion-level.html

Note that this is NOT a personality test. Of course, as we are used to compare ourselves with others, we can start from thinking, that if I score high on self-compassion level, I'm better than others, whoopee, suck that suckers! Or if I score low, I'm just lowly worm with no self-worth and no worth as human being, so I'll go buy more depression pills from Big Pharma or a gun to shoot my self-hating brains out...

We can let go of that thought, and just take the test as discussion with ourselves, about our current state of mind and habitual attitudes. It's just a test of me with myself at this moment. Taking the test hour or day or week later, I can and may answer differently. This is not my personality, just my current state of mind and how I self-reflect at this moment.

Couple more links:

Emory university Cognitive-Based Compassion Training:
http://tibet.emory.edu/research/index.html

Meditations, first that google popped up:
http://www.mindfulselfcompassion.org/meditations_downloads.php

[Locut0s]

1. I don't score to well. Hardly surprised. Interestingly I'm more compassionate of others:

Self-Kindness: 1.60
Self-Judgment: 4.60
Common Humanity: 3.25
Isolation: 5.00
Mindfulness: 1.50
Over-Identification: 5.00
Overall score: 1.63

I tend to hate myself greatly but a lot of people say I'm one of the nicest people they know.

[tama]

2. Others

Your score high on isolation and over-identification. What do others really wish for you, in their heart? Well being. Others have their common human problems too, which you understand quite well, according to your Common Humanity score, so they don't always show that in thought and action. But empathy is our most natural state, and deep down we wish well-being for all others, so that we don't have to feel their pain but can feel their well-being. Also many animals tend to seek isolation when they are in pain or know they are dying, for the same reason we do, out of empathy and compassion, so that others don't have to feel their pain. So as you say and your score shows, being more compassionate of others than towards self can lead to isolation, and that imbalance can become self-feeding vicious cycle.

What our current scientific etc. knowledge of neuroplasticity - constantly changing brain - tells us is that those are not constants of our character, but just snapshots of the current of change. And neurological studies show also that various meditation practices can and do produce visible neuroplastic changes very quickly. It could be fun and beneficial exercise to try and do some meditations for some period, and then retake the test in that new state of mind and brain.

Thanks for caring, feel well, take your time. <3

[Neoma]

3. Huh.

Self-Kindness: 3.20
Self-Judgement: 2.00
Common Humanity: 3.00
Isolation: 2.50
Mindfulness: 4.25
Over-Identification: 2.25
Overall score: 3.62

[hunter]

4. Cripes, this with years of therapy and heavy duty meds on board ...

Self-Kindness: 2.20
Self-Judgment: 2.60
Common Humanity: 1.25
Isolation: 2.00
Mindfulness: 2.00
Over-Identification: 4.75
Overall score: 2.35

[tama]

5. Cripes

What I believe in and perhaps have even some (little) experience of, is healthy self-confidence, with ability to self-heal. But for all the great teachers I've had in my life, I can't say that self-confidence is something that can be taught. Only pointed towards, with love and confidence, but not given.

But through all the struggle and difficulties I believe healthy self confidence is our greatest gift we can give. The point after we have more love to give than we need.

[get the red out]

6. Not surprising at all

Self-Kindness: 1.40
Self-Judgment: 4.60
Common Humanity: 1.75
Isolation: 4.50
Mindfulness: 2.25
Over-Identification: 4.00
Overall score: 1.72

I suck at this.

[davidpdx]

7. Thanks for posting these

I don't get over in to this forum much, but I found all the links very interesting.