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Related: About this forumwhen your ex is the number 2 pick
on a dating website.....kinda sucks, and is upsetting. sigh
Ino
(3,366 posts)I would not be surprised if it happened to me, come to think of it. I only pick a-holes, and strangely enough, they are always just like my mother. Yes, I marry/date men who turn out to be just like my mother.
If I would EVER date again (not likely), my first question at dinner would be, "So.... what's YOUR problem?" Cuz I just know, by the fact that I'm interested, that they have a problem I've glommed on to. Control freak, major manipulator, guilt-tripper, self-esteem destroyer...
I don't know how I manage to do that, though I have figured out why.
(Wondering if you were your ex's #2 pick as well.)
irisblue
(34,381 posts)and since I was just working up the self esteem/nerve to try dating again, it is a definite downturn of mood. Since this dating site has a block feature, I made myself 'invisible' to her posting. Self esteem issues are a part of my anxiety/depression, and the idea of 'making myself invisible' again, it's bitterly ironic.
LiberalLoner
(10,209 posts)Reading about narcissistic parents and the damage they do to children? It helped me so very much. Once I learned the signs of narcissism I was able to avoid toxic people and I have the most wonderful man in the world as a husband now.
No Vested Interest
(5,202 posts)sibling's name as one of two?
Didn't happen to me, but someone near by.