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elehhhhna

(32,076 posts)
Tue May 22, 2018, 01:56 PM May 2018

Just so sad and scared and probably (hell, definitely?) catastrophizing...

Hubs of 30+ years diagnosed with non alcoholic cirrhosis and I'm terrified. I've watched my father die. Watched my then 14 year old enter a locked rehab ward. Watched her mourn 11 dead cohorts (teens) who didn't make it. (so far). Watched my hubs suffer with a false diagnosis of lymphoma (!)...but this has gutted me.

My employer has given me some unpaid leave for a few days - they're being very good to me.

On meds, making an appt w a therapist i feel good about, but I'm gutted.

Can't stop crying...any bump in this road and I lose it emotionally. Help?

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Just so sad and scared and probably (hell, definitely?) catastrophizing... (Original Post) elehhhhna May 2018 OP
For you irisblue May 2018 #1
💕 thank you irisblue elehhhhna May 2018 #9
Don't be so hard on yourself. You have been/are going through a lot. Frustratedlady May 2018 #2
Lol you sound like my therapist! elehhhhna May 2018 #7
Lean on those close to you for support in person... Moostache May 2018 #3
Thank you elehhhhna May 2018 #6
My buddy has been living with non-alcoholic cirrhosis for years. He's doing great. kysrsoze May 2018 #4
I think fatty liver was the cause. Seeing a great specialist in a few weeks and totally changed diet elehhhhna May 2018 #5
If you can go to a specialized nutritionist that would be a great help I think Maraya1969 May 2018 #8
Take care of yourself get the red out May 2018 #10
(((hugs))) samnsara May 2018 #11
I am so sorry to hear that Lotusflower70 May 2018 #12
I'm very good at catastrophizing. hunter May 2018 #13

Frustratedlady

(16,254 posts)
2. Don't be so hard on yourself. You have been/are going through a lot.
Tue May 22, 2018, 02:02 PM
May 2018

It seems like it would be so much easier to do the suffering yourself, as watching others go through their personal hell is painful, too.

I hope your therapist can give you enough support to pull yourself up by the bootstraps and give you the strength to help those who need you.

Good luck! We're here if you need to bend an ear.

Moostache

(10,178 posts)
3. Lean on those close to you for support in person...
Tue May 22, 2018, 02:07 PM
May 2018

While there are great people throughout DU, most of us are remote from your location and unable to provide any more than moral and figurative support. In a situation like yours, you may benefit from counselling or support groups local to you...or family and close friends that can be in the room and listen to you, be a shoulder to cry on, a sounding board to rage at or offer a supporting hug when things feel overwhelming.

I would not wish your troubles on anyone, but this forum is also a legitimate source of comfort and support in a non-physical way too. Sometimes that helps even more than being around people in your everyday life, but everyone is different in that regard.

I wish you nothing but better days ahead and access to all the help you need or want to get through your ordeal.

kysrsoze

(6,152 posts)
4. My buddy has been living with non-alcoholic cirrhosis for years. He's doing great.
Tue May 22, 2018, 02:12 PM
May 2018

His obesity was deemed to be the main factor, but he made drastic diet changes and has turned to exercising regularly (even ran a couple of marathons), and lost in excess of 100 lbs. He's also participating in some clinical trials to reduce the scarring of his liver, though I'm not sure how that is going. Still, it's not a death sentence, by any means.

 

elehhhhna

(32,076 posts)
5. I think fatty liver was the cause. Seeing a great specialist in a few weeks and totally changed diet
Tue May 22, 2018, 02:23 PM
May 2018

so why am I such a mess? He's 5" 11 @235 and losing. I guess I still really love him after all these years ...

And thank you.

Maraya1969

(23,014 posts)
8. If you can go to a specialized nutritionist that would be a great help I think
Tue May 22, 2018, 03:11 PM
May 2018

There are ways to detox the liver. I have actually done coffee enemas that are supposed to detox the liver.

I've taken this product:
(https://www.amazon.com/Liver-Support-Supplement-Regenerator-Proteolytic/dp/B00ZVFS09W/ref=sr_1_3_sspa?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1527018534&sr=1-3-spons&keywords=liver+detox&psc=1


I'm really sorry you both have to go through this.





















Lotusflower70

(3,093 posts)
12. I am so sorry to hear that
Wed May 23, 2018, 07:49 AM
May 2018

It's definitely a lot to take no doubt. I send you positive and healing vibes. Love and light. I am glad you have the support of your employer. Are you close with your family? If so, lean on them. Some good friends? Lean on them. Church or support group? Lean there too. Wherever your support is, take it. Of course we are supporting you here as well. Find time to do little things to replenish yourself. A bubble bath, a massage, whatever. You are going through a lot and that stress and tension is carried in your body, find outlets to release it. Be well and take care of you.

hunter

(39,005 posts)
13. I'm very good at catastrophizing.
Wed May 23, 2018, 05:34 PM
May 2018

One day at a time, deal with it as it comes, has never been my mantra.

Crying not bad.


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