Smoking Cessation
Related: About this forumis it ethical for docs to refuse to treat smokers?
i just got treated like dog shit by a surgeon cuz i smoke.
just flat out told me he wouldnt operate, even when i said i was working on quitting. didnt ask how much, how long, nothing.
but also seemed to rly minimize my condition, and tried to convince me that the surgery wouldnt help anyway. that might b true, tho the doc that was already treating me sent me. seems like he wd have a clue if there wasnt any help.
maybe im over reacting. ive been in misery for 9 mos now, nothing is working. im rly starting to feel like, at 71, my life as an active person might b over.
but rly, the guy was colder than any doc ive ever met.
Ritabert
(2,744 posts)Smokers, drinkers, drug users, pregnant women, patients with STDs, etc. Can you ask your other doctor for another referral?
i need to cool off 1st. he was such an asshole about it.
Ritabert
(2,744 posts)Abnredleg
(1,267 posts)If smoking is not compatible with your treatment then he is within his rights to refuse treatment.
mopinko
(74,144 posts)i survived 2 major surgeries last yr w no issues. the 1st was an emergency. the 2nd had a 6 mo lead up and it never came up.
he didnt ask how much, how long, or offer any help in quitting. didnt even ask if i thought i cd go 4 wks without. coldest doc i have ever had.
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Lochloosa
(16,823 posts)My Doc never even asked about smoking and was great. Find a new doc and report this one. That's a BS move on his part.
It took about 6 months to completely heal.
Good luck.
whathehell
(30,566 posts)It certainly seems unethical.
He might, in fact, merit a report to the state medical association...My advice would be to fire this bastard as soon as possible.
mopinko
(74,144 posts)i just picked him cuz hes at the local office. the rest r downtown, which is a bit of a pita.
he was such a dick about it
whathehell
(30,566 posts)it pissed me off so much I guess I just wanted to reaffirm your decision.
I smoked for 28 years and remember going through various hassles with people before quitting, but thankfully, was never treated that way by a doctor.
I can certainly relate to the difficulty of quitting. I tried several times, but finally succeeded and I'm so glad I did.
If you're having trouble quitting, I'll be happy to tell you what worked for me. We can discuss it here on the thread or you can pm me if you'd like.
mopinko
(74,144 posts)a pack a day at most. long stretches of 1/2 pack. he didnt bother to ask about any of that.
im working on it, and making progress. i likely cd go a mo w/o. having an answer to the addictive voice is important. so i can fix this fucking back seems like it might work.
i went a mo after my gi surgery and barely thought about it. wasnt in pain, just tired and didnt want to go get them.
whathehell
(30,566 posts)The fact of only having smoked 10 years, should make it easier, and it sounds like you're able to handle the physical addiction aspect of it pretty well.
It's interesting that you mention needing "an answer to the addictive voice", because I was the same..In my case, it was facing basic mortality, something made easier by the recent lung cancer death of a close-in---age cousin. I'd look at the cigarette in my hand, confirm my deep attachment to it, then ask myself if it was worth leaving the planet for. I decided it wasn't. It was still a struggle, of course, but the determination helped. Using the Nicotine Patch and Nicotine Gum helped a lot too.
That said, I wish you a lot of luck, both with finding a good doctor and kicking the habit..Keep us informed.
Permanut
(8,659 posts)Which addresses in part the need for healers to respect their patients.
hlthe2b
(114,959 posts)to help with cessation. There is no one cure-all for all. That said, there are certain procedures that are not considered safe to perform if smoking continues or cannot at least be halted for a time for both the procedure and healing period. I don't know if that is an issue, but surgical procedures often fall into that category... But those situation can potentially be addressed with at least short term cessation.
That said, I feel differently about pediatricians who refuse to treat the children of parents who refuse vaccination--after going to extremes to educate, reassure, and bring others in to counsel the parents in multiple ways. Afterwards, to continue to refuse is a choice to be willfully ignorant and pose a threat not only to the child but every other child at their school, daycare, and in the pediatricians' own waiting room. Now, THAT, I do agree with.
Nanuke
(937 posts)mopinko
(74,144 posts)ive spent more than my fair share of time in docs offices. decent human beings r rare.