ok, here's a question.

[mopinko]

so, i have ppl in a cemetery near me, 1st to come here. my da's da's was buried there but was moved later.
it's a lovely place, catholic irish deal. there's a family plot that i'm sure had room for my ashes. but if i should move home, i'd want to be buried there.

i wonder if they would like their bones to be brought home. if i did move there, i'd sell most of what i own here, and would be well fixed. i could do it.
i'm in touch w a cousin on that side. it's a sparse branch of my tree, and there arent many who i even could ask for an opinion. afaik, they dont even know they are there. dont think they ever visit.

how would you feel? if you were my cousin, or if they were your bones?
i have no idea how they felt. they lived in an irish enclave. 5 gen and only irish marriages.
but dont all immigrants want their bones to go home?

[Croney]

1. Five generations means that some were born, lived, and died where they are buried

so that is home. JMHO.

[mopinko]

3. i dunno. i'm one, and this places feel less like home every day.

this is the branch that got run out for being related to a rebel. they landed her because of who their uncle was.

[Srkdqltr]

2. Let's be brutal. The dead don't know or care. This is about what you want.

If you can afford it and want to move them, by all means do it.
As you are the only one who cares and can do it, do it!
I don't see the point but you do and that's what matters.

[Tetrachloride]

4. The family with the older grave might be upset

On the other hand, my family’s main gravestone and location is below par. I’d be open to a move if I didn’t pay for it.