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XanaDUer2

(14,336 posts)
Mon Nov 18, 2024, 05:46 PM Nov 18

Dear friends, questioning my faith

I'm having a medical issue caused by a shove from a dentist on my tmj lower jaw. It happened about 8 weeks ago. Instead of selling down. I'm getting headaches and facial pulsing and chin tingling now. I'm terrified the dentist, who is taking no responsibility what so ever of what he did ( push wasnt hard enough jaw is stable)....ear ringing.

Praying is not helping and I'm questioning why God would allow this to even happen. I paid 32k out of pocket, as well.

Every day a new scarier symptom. I was hoping it was resolving somewhat. Its not.

Any words appreciated

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Dear friends, questioning my faith (Original Post) XanaDUer2 Nov 18 OP
you'd be better off getting counseling Skittles Nov 18 #1
I do nt XanaDUer2 Nov 18 #4
Did you look into tapping? bucolic_frolic Nov 18 #2
Thank you, I'll look for that XanaDUer2 Nov 18 #6
God doesn't allow anything to happen. He gives us challenges. DaddyShark Nov 18 #3
sure bro Skittles Nov 18 #5
Lol XanaDUer2 Nov 18 #7
excellent Skittles Nov 18 #12
Many steps over at least a year XanaDUer2 Nov 18 #9
Complex treatment XanaDUer2 Nov 18 #10
Itinerant Catholic here ThreeNoSeep Nov 18 #8
Thank you very much XanaDUer2 Nov 18 #11
Find a Physical Therapist who specializes in TMJ LT Barclay Nov 19 #13

bucolic_frolic

(47,309 posts)
2. Did you look into tapping?
Mon Nov 18, 2024, 05:57 PM
Nov 18

tapping painful areas is well recognized in the alt med field. Sort of the same principles as accupuncture but without needles and doctors. you just finger tap on the areas lightly. There are YouTube videos for how to do it.

DaddyShark

(14 posts)
3. God doesn't allow anything to happen. He gives us challenges.
Mon Nov 18, 2024, 06:02 PM
Nov 18

Bad things have always happened to people even in the time when Jesus was around. I wouldn't give up on praying, but I have to wonder wth cost 32k at the dentist? for much less than that price, you could have flown to costa rica, and had all of your natural teeth and replaced with all on 4 implants top and bottom.

ThreeNoSeep

(176 posts)
8. Itinerant Catholic here
Mon Nov 18, 2024, 06:41 PM
Nov 18

My spouse has TMJ, and she has had to take powerful medications to keep it under (poor) control. I have seen what you face in the strain on her eyes. I have other members of my family with more dire diagnosis's.

The words and promises of Jesus never said the faithful would live without pain. Even He cried out in pain and doubt on the cross. We all suffer in this vale of tears, and we should remember that our prayers to God have never been based on a transactional relationship. God does not remove pain, because we ask for Them or offer something in exchange for this relief.

When my son was 20, he had a psychotic break while attending college. Since that first break, he has had recurring incidents where he believes he is dealing with CIA agents, zombies, cannibals, and other delusions of mental anguish that come right out of a Bosch painting. Doctors diagnosed him with schizoaffective disorder, and he has been taking drugs for six years with side effects that are barely less than the symptoms schizoaffective disorder brings to a person.

While he was going through these recurring episodes and battling with his own disbelief in what was happening to him, I fell into a long bout with despair. I sought therapy for myself, and eventually ran across "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl. Reading it helped.

Today, my adult son lives with us at home, and he probably will until my wife and I die. The disorder is under control of a sort.

When the world brings us pain, it is a lesson. When the World piles pain on top of pain, and it seems there is nothing but indignity and pointless suffering, find the grace at the edges of your perception, in the actions and spirits of these around you. The suffering is a challenge to the meaning and order to the cosmos. When you are facing the pain in your own life, especially when it seems to be without end, it is your duty to find meaning in that suffering rather than rail against a sense that God is denying you simple relief.

You can endure this pain. You really have no choice. I am reminded of the words of Julian of Norwich,. She said, "All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of thing shall be well."

LT Barclay

(2,762 posts)
13. Find a Physical Therapist who specializes in TMJ
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 12:19 PM
Nov 19

My mom had TMJ issues after being struck by a step van and became addicted to painkillers. I wish someone would have suggested PT back then.
I also saw that you said that the pain migrates around your head, so be sure they also assess your posture and upper cervical spine.

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