I'm in the numb stage again...probably because of my own physical difficulties. I still miss my Dad terribly but the articles you have posted have made me accept that I will always miss him and grieve to some extent.

CaliforniaPeggy

(152,315 posts)

6. I'm SO glad I could help you, my dear ohheckyeah.

Reply to ohheckyeah (Reply #5)

Thu Nov 5, 2015, 12:39 AM

Nov 2015

It is just the worst pain ever.

But at least we aren't alone in it. I had hoped, back in the earliest days, that nobody had ever felt so much grief as I was feeling. But now I realize that nearly everyone has had some catastrophic loss in their lives, and all we can do is try to help, somehow.

It looks like my gift is finding articles.

ohheckyeah

(9,314 posts)

7. It most definitely

Reply to CaliforniaPeggy (Reply #6)

Thu Nov 5, 2015, 01:11 AM

Nov 2015

is a gift you have.

If I ever recover from this stroke, I hope to find mine.

I thought the stroke was the worst thing I'd ever experience until my Dad died. I do believe my stroke helped him survive as long as he did. Most people die rather soon with a congestive heart failure diagnosis. He held on over a year.

The thing that comforts me the most is he passed the way he wanted. He died in his own home, in his own bed in his sleep. He was a man of great, if unusual, faith. I miss our conversations about faith and politics the most. I have only one other person I can talk to that way but she doesn't have the faith he did. Few do. He was the most giving person I know although my Mom comes close. I dread losing her. The bane of growing older.

CaliforniaPeggy

(152,315 posts)

8. Losing the people we're close to sure is the bane of growing older.

Reply to ohheckyeah (Reply #7)

Thu Nov 5, 2015, 01:30 AM

Nov 2015

It helps having someone you respect to talk to.

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