Photos of mom and dad:

[applegrove]

Miss you mom and Dad. Here they are at their NOVA SCOTIA wedding 64 years ago. Mom passed away 7 years ago. Dad 6 weeks ago. In the group picture Dad is holding the little flower girl's basket of flowers. She must have given it to him. He was such a softie. Children loved him. I miss him today and every day.



MOMandDAD

[Enter stage left]

1. Sorry for your loss, but that is a wonderfully long time to be married. Be proud!

[applegrove]

5. Yes. They liked the same people and had the greatest friends. Family

was everything to them.

[Laura PourMeADrink]

37. On the flip side, just heard a comedian say the secret to marriage

Is to hate the same people

[applegrove]

38. They didn't gossip. They were guileless. They were lucky to make such good friends.

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[Laura PourMeADrink]

40. Yes! Wonder if there was a perfect time to be alive??

And the female/male mix was perfect? In a marriage that is. Sounds like your parents found that mix. What a great example to aspire to!!

[applegrove]

41. Thank you.

[brer cat]

2. Losing a parent is very tough

It will take time to grieve and adjust. I enjoyed seeing the wedding pictures. They were a very handsome couple

[applegrove]

6. They are a couple again. We buried them in the same hole. In the winter you can see

downtown Ottawa through the trees of the cemetery.

[montanacowboy]

3. What beautiful people

I remember weddings in that era, so nostalgic.

[applegrove]

4. The view is from the farm my mom grew up on. I think that view of the East River valley

in Nova Scotia is lovely.

[greatauntoftriplets]

7. They look so happy.

My condolences on your father's death.

[applegrove]

9. Thanks. I miss him. I still sometimes feel he is at the nursing home

5 blocks away. I'm glad he had a great experience there. His private health care aide had him laughing the whole time.

[MLAA]

8. Beautiful pic. Such a pretty and handsome pair. Hey looked so happy.

My dad passed a year ago and I miss him but can mostly just think of the funny things he would say and knowing he had a very good life.

[applegrove]

11. Yes. My parents loved the same things. I'm glad they found each other.

[alwaysinasnit]

10. Hugs to you, dear applegrove. I wish you tranquility.

[applegrove]

12. I go on a road trip with my brother on Sundays because that was the day we would bring dad dinner

(before covid). Yesterday we went to the aviation museum at the old airbase he used to hang out at as a kid. I could remember a few of his stories about different planes. They had a Harvard plane there. My dad told me that at the start of WWII the isolationist in the US got laws passed that no planes were to be flown to Canada (which was at war in 1939). So Roosevelt had some ground paved across the Canadian border and they'd roll the Harvard planes to Canada and get around isolationist laws that way.

[alwaysinasnit]

13. Thank you for sharing this slice of your life, and for a bit of history I was totally unaware of.

[sheshe2]

14. Beautiful photos of your parents, apple.

I am so sorry for the loss of your dad. It is so hard, I know.

[applegrove]

15. Thank you. He was a lovely person. Staff would gather there to get in on the teasing

his amazing caregiver would unleash. And he was lots of fun to tease. I'm glad he and they had fun.

[blm]

16. 💐💐

[Skittles]

17. oh my

they were movie-star gorgeous

my sympathy to you applegrove

[applegrove]

18. They were very kind people. My mom wanted to be a missionary doctor in Africa. Then

she met my dad and it was marriage and 4 kids in 3 years.

[irisblue]

19. What a lovely couple. I am so sorry for your loss of them

[applegrove]

22. Thank you.

[KS Toronado]

20. This help?

[applegrove]

23. That is so nice of you.

[lucca18]

21. I am so sorry for your loss.

Beautiful wedding photos!❤️

[applegrove]

24. Yes. My parents took lots of photos. It is what we are left with and

thank God for the memories.

[JudyM]

26. Joyful lives, beautiful to see

Wishing you comfort in those good memories, applegrove.

[applegrove]

29. Oh they had some tough times but did not complain.

[Tetrachloride]

27. A fine thread. ty for sharing.

My condolences.

[applegrove]

31. Thank you.

[Laura PourMeADrink]

28. My heart breaks for you. There is nothing that

makes it better. Time will help. You have to just assimilate those great things you remember into your life.

Thanks for posting.

[applegrove]

30. Yes. It is a new relationship with my Dad. When my mom died I went back to

my tween years and our great relationship then and settle there often. I wonder where I will land with Dad. He was always nurturing and supportive.

[Laura PourMeADrink]

32. Confused a bit. You said your dad was always nurturing

and supporting... But that it was a new relationship with your dad?

[applegrove]

33. I meant the saying, Your parent is not gone, it is just that your relationship

to them has changed one more time. (After death). It is my father's character to be nurturing and supportive. I'll get that through the memories: him constantly sending me newspaper articles to read when I lived away from my hometown, trying g to convince me when I was an angel in a school play when I was 5 or 6 that I had in fact flown around the stage and he mimicked flapping wings (i did not buy it but thought he was nice and fun), talking politics with me every dinner after I came home from college so I got some sturdy political sea legs (he came from a political family, we talk long after the wine glasses were empty and the table cleared of dishes), creating the summer Olympics at our cottage in 1976 where we kids jumped over a horizontally held broom handle and into the lake as the high jump, etc, teaching me how to change a tire including the part where you roll a big stone under your car near the flat in case your jack fails,
buying me a stuffed animal when he took me to what I think was the dentist, helping me clean out the larder in the cottage from top to bottom when my parents had given us adult kids the cottage to invite our friends up to because they wanted us to have fun, cooking dinner all the time when he was newly retired, making pound cakes for family and friends every Christmas, teasing my 97 year old grandmother, his mother-in-law, that she put a hex on his foot because he voted for the Conservatives a few times (she loved being gently teased and I don't know that she was someone who had been gently teased a lot in her life), supporting me in many ways when I was harrassed, he was constantly thinking of others etc.. He could be grumpy and sometimes said stupid things as most people do, but he was overwhelmingly thinking of others all the time. So I'm sure I'll land on a few more aspects of his personality but on the whole he was a pretty nice guy. It is nice that his death was not shocking and that he was 92. I tried to nurture him back. I find myself thinking of others these days. And that makes me think maybe my relationship to him has already changed as I mimic that love and support. It is time for me to nurture and support the great people in my life, to pass it on and to say "What would Dad do?".

[Laura PourMeADrink]

34. What lovely memories... Want to write more but getting

On plane. Will later. Have a good holiday

[applegrove]

35. Enjoy Thanksgiving.

[Laura PourMeADrink]

36. That is exactly what they say we should be doing when

our loved ones are gone - try to incorporate the good things about them in our everyday lives.

Rereading what you wrote makes me feel that you were very very lucky to have such clear memories the wonderful things your dad did. I think if I have any regret it would be that I didn't REALLY get to know my dad as well as you must have. Like there's a big swath of time when you're young and when they're still young that you just exist.

I think I teared up almost every night for the first year - looking up at the stars each night. And still have bitter hatred for trump for not warning everyone about Covid early on. But that is dissipating. When family got together over Thanksgiving it had turned into remembering the happy times and the funny things that happened or that he said or did.

I think it's human nature -- the evolution of grief. And everything is so raw to you right now. I wish you only the best.

[applegrove]

39. Oh you were robbed if it was Covid. Think if Trump had been people mask

all along. I'm so sorry for your loss. Talk to those who knew your dad and follow the stories you hear. I've pursued genealogy and discounted some family fables. Others look very plausible. I was lucky my dad told his stories his whole life I know. My mom, not so much. But she told my sister so I'm learning all the time things about Mom and she's been gone almost 8 years. Vibes to you on your shocking loss.