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kozar

(2,910 posts)
Thu Jun 1, 2023, 10:08 AM Jun 2023

There is light,

I’m gonna post this here, hoping that it will help. MrsK passed 16 months ago.
My life had been , and still is LilBit.
This morning we did our usual , grocery( I buy food by the day, it gets Lil out and about) , buy cigs, get LilBit a coke.
Uhm the grocery clerk said hi to us and said” would you guys have dinner with me?”
I panicked, said “ uhm. Not today “ I’m such an idiot.
I went back and talked her , LilBit and I will be going on a date.
My point here, I never thought when she died. I could even think about another woman, I was so taking care of LilBit. LilBit is 35 I’m 62. My mind was “ no one needs my baggage “
Well I was wrong . We all grieve in our own way.
May take 1 sweek, or 1 year, or a second, but


There is light at the end , just do you! I did

To all here in this group
LilBit and I love you, you will get through this.


Koz

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Response to 1WorldHope (Reply #3)

1WorldHope

(915 posts)
5. Wow sorry. I didn't know. The nick name didn't suggest human.
Thu Jun 1, 2023, 11:49 AM
Jun 2023

So much for trying to be friendly. It must be time for a break.

Response to 1WorldHope (Reply #5)

Response to 1WorldHope (Reply #5)

kozar

(2,910 posts)
8. No worries Hope
Sun Jun 4, 2023, 07:47 AM
Jun 2023

You just triggered me, I’m okmight wanna read “mental health” on DU or at least research the author of the post you replied to.


It’s l kinda what we do as Dems, to avoid these situations.

1WorldHope

(915 posts)
9. Hey Kozar, I am truly sorry my comment had such a negative impact on you.
Sun Jun 4, 2023, 10:25 AM
Jun 2023

I spend a lot of time on DU looking at cat and dog and bird videos. It was an honest mistake. I never would consider reading someone's profile before I respond because I wouldn't treat anyone any differently. I'm pretty new to this site and it seems like everyone already knows each other. So while others may know your daughter by her nickname I didn't. One thought I have is that you call her by her real name to strangers to show her respect and dignity as the adult that she is. So, one last time, I apologize for the misunderstanding.

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