I am just wondering how the posters in this group are doing?

[hrmjustin]

Tensions in the religion room are high now and insults are flying. I am wondering how members of this room are handling it.

Just as a warning please don't mention other posters names and or anything that will get a post hidden.

[rug]

1. I'm dismayed.

[hrmjustin]

2. I don't blame you. I can't say I am shocked but it seems worse than normal.

[rug]

3. Today it was.

[hrmjustin]

4. Hopefully it will improve, but I doubt it.

[rug]

5. The room needs a dog.

[hrmjustin]

6. Lol indeed.

[okasha]

7. Same posters, same shit, different day.

The stalker's back at it.

[TM99]

19. I know this is true

because I can see threads with hundreds of replies and most are from those 'same posters' that I have blissfully on Ignore.

The sad thing is that their toxicity is infecting other members of that group.

[hrmjustin]

20. A few in that room can not handle being challenged.

[TM99]

23. Some are truly just toxic individuals who revel in the discord.

Others do appear to have some deep wounds and legitimate grievances. They just don't know the appropriate ways to deal with it and do a lot of displacing of that hurt on others not even remotely responsible.

The first group are impossible and best placed on Ignore. The second require openness, understanding, and empathy to communicate with. I am always open to the later.

[hrmjustin]

24. I have been trying in the past few days to be understand them but a few want to play the victim card

[okasha]

28. I really admired your replies

to one of the first group in that thread. You have a kind heart.

Ooops. Meant the second group. One of those who does seem truly wounded.

[TM99]

29. Thank you.

I am trying to deal differently with my anger with regards to people's wounds impacting their here and now relationships.

With anyone willing to converse with me and disagree with civility, my heart and mind are always open.

To those who are not willing, then I am simply done trying. They are ignored both here and elsewhere. It is not worth the stress it causes trying to converse with toxic people.

[okasha]

30. There are a handful I simply won't respond to

unless it's a whanging great lie like calling me a homophobe. I don't like losing all the following posts, though.

And yes, those folk are simply toxic.

[TM99]

32. I try to converse with some new ones from time to time,

however, it rarely goes well.

Bluntly, I see a lot of immature thinking relying on internet sites and memes for confirmation bias of the unresolved anger and hurt (sadly yes real at times) from bad childhood experiences with literalistic and fundamentalist Christian denominations.

I will only waste so much time and then another is added to my Ignore list. I just added a new one that derailed what could have been an interesting discussion on some amazing religious thinkers of the 20th century now sadly overlooked.

Ah, well.

[hrmjustin]

25. Yes I see that today. Nothing changes.

[No Vested Interest]

8. I hadn't given it a thought until you brought it up here.

Many of the posts in the religion room are of no interest to me, and I basically skip them.

I had posted one comment on a OP related to the one you are referencing, and then let it go.

Besides which, about six of the regulars there make up my ignore list.

I come to DU for information and to support people and causes that are either important or needing support.

[hrmjustin]

10. ignore works. I would continue to use it but it makes mirt harder.

New posters entering religion right away is not too common so I need to be able to see it and ignoring the regulars makes it harder.

[okasha]

9. Just as an aside, I'm currently reading The Lost Gospel of Judas Iscariot

by Bart Ehrman, yet another renowned scholar too stupid to know he's really an atheist.

[hrmjustin]

11. Lol I love the way you put that.

[littlemissmartypants]

12. I am seldom surprised by trouble. And insults don't phase me anymore.

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I just finished reading

Jesus and the Lost Goddess
The Secret Teachings of the Original Christians
by Timothy Freke , Peter Gandy

Working on Your Faith is Your Fortune. By Neville Goddard currently.

And I have had to deal with a couple of stalkers recently.

Other than that I'm great.

Love, Peace and Shelter. Lmsp

[hrmjustin]

21. Great reading material. Sorry to hear of the stalkers.

[Htom Sirveaux]

13. Don't know if I qualify as a member of this room, but...

I handle posts like that by staying out of them, and if I find myself in them, by ignoring insulting parts of posts, and focusing on productive parts. To me, diplomacy is more important than taking offense and returning fire.

[hrmjustin]

14. Yes of course you count as a member of this group.

[el_bryanto]

15. Glad that I'm not in the religion room anymore

As my mood today would not lead me to lower tensions.

More and more I'm convinced I made the right call there.

Bryant

[hrmjustin]

16. I am glad it worked for you. The religion room is very predictable.

[kentauros]

17. I think I check the Religion forum about once a week, if that.

I rarely see anything I want to read, or a story that needs to be "rescued" and posted to an appropriate group.

It seems to be mostly biased opinion pieces, and by people for whom I have little to no respect to begin with. Better to stick with the safe havens where the calm, friendly, and good conversations exist.

[hrmjustin]

18. Yes I am glad that we have this group.

When we have new visitors to the group you get the sense they want to dicuss things in an atmosphere of calm.

[hrmjustin]

22. Some people in the other room will just say anything at times.

I will follow my own advice and not name names but I get frustrated st times.

[wryter2000]

26. I can't tolerate that forum

There are so many people in there who have no interest in the exchange of ideas but simply want to bash. I'm glad this group is here for rational discussion.

[hrmjustin]

27. Agreed! There will never be open debate with a handful of them.

[hrmjustin]

31. Wow, just wow! I never claimed I was neutral so where do they get that idea?

I was picked to be a host in that room because I am a believer.

[TM99]

33. Maybe hosts should start charging by the hour

for group therapy for those with unresolved childhood issues and rage problems?

[hrmjustin]

34. Lmfao!

I am not a host there now but I think I need hazard pay today.

[okasha]

35. Good idea!

Longship has already earned a mountain of overtime, hazard pay, combat pay and a really comfortable retirement package.

[hrmjustin]

36. Agreed!

[hrmjustin]

37. I did not expect as much drama as we saw today but I am glad the hosts took care of it.

I found out at least one of my posts were alerted on.

[okasha]

38. Shall go see what I've been missing today.

Sounds as if the drama kingz and kweenz have all been drama-ing.

[hrmjustin]

39. it is locked but it is simply sad.

[MADem]

40. Hopefully we can maintain "peace in the valley" here.

Some mood music:

[hrmjustin]

41. Indeed!