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39. "The mental load" women try to explain to men that they are carrying the mental load

Thu Jun 4, 2026, 01:20 AM

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And men dont get it.

The mental load equals

Kids lunch, school clothes, homework, all the stuff required for school
Meals, groceries for meals
Everything required to run and maintain a home

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