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BlueWaveNeverEnd

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57. Women marry a man with kids and are shocked when he shifts all child care to him

Thu Jun 4, 2026, 02:05 PM

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On the days he has custody of the kids, he is sleeping late or going off to golf. Women have to put their foot down or divorce to get out of being the default parent

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What is "A brighter Day"? TIA Celerity Wednesday #15

A reference to the "soap operas" that women supposedly have nothing niyad Wednesday #16

never heard of it Celerity Wednesday #20

I had never heard of that one, either, so I looked it up. Wayyyyyyyyyy niyad Wednesday #23

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And guess what types of people PatSeg 13 hrs ago #50

My husband and I were invited to a dinner, the first time we saw that.. chouchou 9 hrs ago #60

I never understood the appeal PatSeg 5 hrs ago #65

Do you remember ... oldsoldierfadingfast 8 hrs ago #62

Oh dear PatSeg 6 hrs ago #64

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So Far Timewas Wednesday #6

Until the 70's, women could do little financially on their own. paleotn Wednesday #25

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I lived those days Lifeafter70 Wednesday #33

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Lawyers won't take your money? Oh really. paleotn Wednesday #26

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Men can't afford lawyers? johnp3907 Wednesday #35

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If you have a healthcare provider you regularly talk to Sympthsical Wednesday #32

Thanks... slightlv 23 hrs ago #38

So pleased to hear this Sympthsical 23 hrs ago #40

Same here in reverse - playing parent to a 5 year old wife who is 82. Aussie105 23 hrs ago #41

I hear you. Friends we've had for 20 years slightlv 9 hrs ago #59

A humble suggestion ... if he keeps losing his wallet FakeNoose 15 hrs ago #45

THAT's not a bad idea!!!! (LOL) slightlv 2 hrs ago #68

Slightly... CousinIT 15 hrs ago #46

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"Women are expected to work like they have no children and parent like they have no job." DET Wednesday #34

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"The mental load" women try to explain to men that they are carrying the mental load BlueWaveNeverEnd 23 hrs ago #39

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Women marry a man with kids and are shocked when he shifts all child care to him BlueWaveNeverEnd 10 hrs ago #57

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