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Phoenix61

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19. I wouldn't send anything.

Reply to debm55 (Original post)

Mon Oct 21, 2024, 09:59 PM

Oct 2024

Long boring story… I have a brother I stopped talking to about 6 years ago. Best decision I ever made.

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Am I a shit? Or what would you do? In the summer of 2023, my sister told us she had uterine cancer. We drove up to [View all] debm55 Oct 2024 OP

No birthday card DUgosh Oct 2024 #1

Do exactly what you need to do. Your only consideration is your husband and yourself ... marble falls Oct 2024 #2

My 2 cents is no card no call. It's feels like at this point after all they've done it's your decision if you want MLAA Oct 2024 #3

Your family is abusive. If you expect them ever to change Ocelot II Oct 2024 #4

I agree with you 100%! Upthevibe Oct 2024 #39

If I were you, I would not send it. onecaliberal Oct 2024 #5

Be who you are TommyT139 Oct 2024 #6

Your family is extremely toxic and exhaustingly abusive Niagara Oct 2024 #7

First, you are very kind... Joinfortmill Oct 2024 #8

You are NTA!! Lunabell Oct 2024 #9

People can be quite shocking. Joinfortmill Oct 2024 #20

Sounds like my family XanaDUer2 Oct 2024 #25

Questions for you: Do you want to cancel your sister? Do you want to let your sister know how you feel? Does your Doodley Oct 2024 #10

Yes and my mother is worse, my dad died last September. I was made fun of by my mother and sister in front of relatives debm55 Oct 2024 #13

You are NOT nasty and you are not a shit. After a lifetime of this abuse.... CousinIT Oct 2024 #16

You are not a nasty person BigMin28 Oct 2024 #29

My dear debm55 radical noodle Oct 2024 #33

Then, it's time to cut the cord. sarge43 Oct 2024 #38

Girlfriend, you and i need to talk gay texan Oct 2024 #11

I think you KNOW you're not a sh*t, Deb. stopdiggin Oct 2024 #12

Sounds like the card is bothering you. Dear_Prudence Oct 2024 #14

Good thought. The card is nothing in the scheme of things - but dealt with in a quickly easy way - ... marble falls Oct 2024 #27

I would not send a card. They are toxic and selfish. Take care of you and hubby. CousinIT Oct 2024 #15

I would probably send the card MyMission Oct 2024 #17

This message was self-deleted by its author MyMission Oct 2024 #18

I wouldn't send anything. Phoenix61 Oct 2024 #19

why did you get a card for her? Kali Oct 2024 #21

I'm so sorry for everything you're going through. I hope you and your husband can both have some LauraInLA Oct 2024 #22

Ditto everything here! Phentex Oct 2024 #23

IGNORE XanaDUer2 Oct 2024 #24

Just sign the card and send it. Do not write anything in it and do not call. sinkingfeeling Oct 2024 #26

One of the only two good resolutions. It's a distraction. marble falls Oct 2024 #28

Make a SMALL effort AltairIV Oct 2024 #31

Your generosity is remarkable PJMcK Oct 2024 #30

You are not a shit. madaboutharry Oct 2024 #32

I would send the card. Your heart is too kind and it would be a burden if you did not send it. MaryMagdaline Oct 2024 #34

Do whatever satisfies your need for contentment Raven123 Oct 2024 #35

So sorry you're dealing with this crap. WestMichRad Oct 2024 #36

No card, no phone call Wicked Blue Oct 2024 #37

One's conduct is always, repeat always, contingent upon one's own morality... malthaussen Oct 2024 #40

Question ProfessorGAC Oct 2024 #41

I'm so glad you got tons of good advice FullySupportDems Oct 2024 #42

I am evil mercuryblues Oct 2024 #43

Forget the card; instead, snot Oct 2024 #44