And I do have people to ask about stuff with, that being Krista who've I've known 15 years, or Ashley, cashier at the Walgreen who I see every other day or so for the past couple years, and with whom I try to include some kind of gender affirming comment to every time I see her, which I know she appreciates (she's literally told me so). My Walgreen's account shows my name as being 'Dude' (long story) so she always makes it a point to say 'Dude' to me, and I call her 'Missy' ... cause she's probably 1/2 my age. She'd tell me if she didn't like it.
Anyways, I'll try to do better. I'm really only being a Nervous Nellie about the idea of someone erasing all vestiges of their chromosomal 'sex' from all records because I honestly wonder if that could come back to hurt them in an emergency sitch, but you're right ... there's a lot more likely dangers that might be avoidable, and nobody tries to legislate those away.
I sometimes wonder if the real money behind the transphobic legislation we're seeing ... isn't Big Insurance. Both Health, and Life. Logically, Insurance Companies want this subject to be cut and dry. I think ambiguity ... fucks with their business model and algorithms and such. They, perhaps above all other large entities, probably hate the idea behind people altering records of their sex when they transition. I'd not be surprised if they aren't behind these kinds of laws in a similar way Big Petroleum is behind efforts to deny climate change.
Anyways ... peace to you and yours, and I'm pulling for you with the sarcoma thing