Yes, the stupid claim that women get raped based on what they wear is ridiculous. However, as a young woman, I definitely found that walking around town in short shorts and a top with no bra underneath (not see-through) got me some very unwanted attention. I didn't have a car and took the bus to work and school and it was more of a hassle when I dressed as I normally would vs. wearing longer shorts and a long baggy blouse that hid my body. So yeah, we can dress however the fuck we want, just be prepared to deal with the consequences of getting unwanted attention from men. Of course, if you are feeling feisty, or don't live where there are a lot of rednecks, have fun with it.
I blush to think of how I used to dress when I went out with the band but I was young and in great shape and in generally safe places and lots of friends as backup. I also carried Mace, which I never had to use. The one time I might have needed it, I had gone outside for air without my purse. I had several friends with me and we were startled when a "gang" of motorcyclists pulled up right in front of the door. We kept walking, but the guy in front grabbed my wrist - telling me to stay outside with him. Luckily I'd taken a self-defense course a month earlier and remembered to step close to him to loosen his grip on my wrist, then stepped back quickly turning and yanked my wrist away. He was so shocked he just stood there for a second, long enough for me to reach the door and safety. The bouncer came out and escorted me and my friends inside.
Be smart and be safe while you rock whatever you feel like wearing!
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