you are a girl. no i am not, i am a woman. but, you are a girl, too. no.

[seabeyond]

a girl is a kid. i am an adult. i am a woman.

i had this conversation with my gr niece. all my family and friends at the table.

girls like pink.

boys do, too.

no, only girls.

my son says, i like pink. my brother likes pink.

then you are girls.

jade doesnt like pink

then she isnt a girl.

i understand that this is normal behavior with the young. my boys and my 19 yr old niece are flabbergasted at these conversations with this child. my sons keep coming to me and telling me what this child is saying. (she spent the night). i told oldest son, this is normal. the difference is, when my boys were young and they would say one of these societal conditioned comments out loud, we would talk about the absurdity of it and the conditioning from society.

boys are messy
girls arent
daddy cleans
mommy doesnt
but boys are messy
girls arent

all our conversations are wrapped around this. i got interrupted from this post to get her paper to color on and we had another conversation about colors and gender. but i like green. am i allowed to like green. where is society to tell me if i like this color or not. i am so confused. what am i going to do.

these are very easy, very simple, common sense parenting actions. listen to the child, talk to the child. it is fun. i like listening and talking. they kids are sweet, smart, not a big deal. yet, so many parents fail the very basics in connecting, communication, teaching children.

but, it is the fun part of parenting. and at this age, they listen to you.

it starts so very young. so when we say biology, i say, no way.

btw, i got the two yr old brother a box full of dinosaurs to get him off wrestling dolls. lol. we have a lot of dinosaurs from my boys childhood and we are doling these out on christmas and bdays. the girl LOVES them. and it doesnt even have a princess crown. she split them with brother and she is carrying her favorite around. non gender toy.