How do feminists present themselves? Can we discuss a minimum standard for discourse?

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I have worked very hard all of my adult life to present myself as willing to learn, anxious to work and never imply that I should get an easier load because I am pretty or silly or cannot do hard things myself. Whenever I left a job it would take two or three full time people to replace me.

I farm, breed plants and animals organically and have my own business. I often need help - for which I employ people part time these days, but used to have full time employees. But I really am troubled by the little "i'm just a silly girl" act, or "I'm so beautiful, you need to help me" act. Or "I'm so sexy, you need to do everything for me" act.

Behaving as if one is not fully functional goes against my view of feminism.

I do not accept little sayings that imply that thinking and or writing or anything for that matter are just too hard for a woman. In fact things like this send me loopy. Am I over the top?

What do others think?