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MineralMan

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12. You're right. It's up to everyone

Reply to yardwork (Reply #9)

Sun Feb 19, 2012, 03:50 PM

Feb 2012

to encourage women to be exactly who they are, rather than what they think people expect of them.

I've been lucky that all my relationships with women have been with women who were at least as smart as I was and not afraid to be who they were. In fact, those are the people who I was always attracted to, starting even in high school. My first serious girlfriend in high school beat me out as valedictorian of our class. I learned early that smart people are the most interesting people, whatever their gender. It's a lesson that I'm glad to have learned.

My wife of 20 years and my former wife are both very bright, self-assured people. I wouldn't have it any other way.

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How do feminists present themselves? Can we discuss a minimum standard for discourse? [View all] Tumbulu Feb 2012 OP

I get mistaken for a guy online all the time. I have no idea why. REP Feb 2012 #1

I think it's immaturity and also a sense of entitlement justiceischeap Feb 2012 #2

Transcending beyond our images that have been defined for us by others. no_hypocrisy Feb 2012 #3

I absolutely reject that woman can't think kdmorris Feb 2012 #4

Not all boys and men have a problem with MineralMan Feb 2012 #5

I know not all do kdmorris Feb 2012 #7

That's one of the saddest parts, as well as one of the avenues for hope. yardwork Feb 2012 #9

You're right. It's up to everyone MineralMan Feb 2012 #12

That's clearly reflected in the way that you relate to people here on DU. yardwork Feb 2012 #16

Derision for being intelligent while female. no_hypocrisy Feb 2012 #6

That is a great story. You didn't let them stop you, and now you are in a position of authority. yardwork Feb 2012 #10

I never wasted any time "dumbing it down". To me, pretending to be someone I wasn't gkhouston Feb 2012 #8

I probably would have saved myself a lot of heartache in HS kdmorris Feb 2012 #13

You're not over the top. I'm with you Catherina Feb 2012 #11

The 'acts' you describe have always struck me as a game. Ruby the Liberal Feb 2012 #14

I wouldn't even know how to play the "but I'm just a girl" card with my husband. gkhouston Feb 2012 #17

Thanks everyone for the discussion Tumbulu Feb 2012 #15