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ZenLefty

(20,924 posts) Fri Mar 9, 2012, 12:49 PM Mar 2012

Negging [View all]

http://xkcd.com/1027/

Never heard this term until now. I'm sure I've done something like that accidentally (I'll say "Oh, those are cute eyeglasses you're wearing!" and I don't know that the person I'm talking to hates those eyeglasses and feels totally self conscious wearing them). But deliberately? For the sole intent of making someone more receptive to praise and advances? That's low.

Neggers, take the advice above. Just talk to them like a fucking human being.

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Negging [View all] ZenLefty Mar 2012 OP

btw - thats not a gendre related word dipsydoodle Mar 2012 #1

And I always take coupe v roadster question seriously! REP Mar 2012 #4

That was just a gender neutral example dipsydoodle Mar 2012 #6

I can be spectacularly oblivious REP Mar 2012 #7

Jeans.....lol dipsydoodle Mar 2012 #8

Those are CUTE! REP Mar 2012 #9

I wish I had understood this as a young woman zazen Mar 2012 #2

My approach was pretty blunt and inelegant REP Mar 2012 #5

Do you think maybe some men (and maybe even women) need social skills? :) Sarah Ibarruri Mar 2012 #10

Neil Strauss was great on this--lots of narcissists and Randroids around that community MisterP Mar 2012 #3

A recent movie made this popular. It just seems dumb to me. stevenleser Mar 2012 #11

Why would I waste my time hanging around someone who tries to make me feel bad about myself? gkhouston Mar 2012 #12

If you are raised by parents who continually do this... MadrasT Mar 2012 #13

Do you think there is a significant percentage of women who are vulnerable to this? stevenleser Mar 2012 #14

I don't know how significant the number is. MadrasT Mar 2012 #15

I've seen these women a lot. Neoma Mar 2012 #16

+1 Blue_Tires Nov 2012 #17