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Tue Jul 10, 2012, 08:56 PM Jul 2012

Getting Your Tubes Tied Is a Giant Pain in the Ass [View all]



Getting Your Tubes Tied Is a Giant Pain in the Ass

Erin Gloria Ryan

For women who know deep down that they never want children, that hell no response to the thought of motherhood endures long after the echoes of a temper tantrum in the candy aisle at Target subside. But women who want to be sterilized often face obstacles that aren't present for other medical procedures — obnoxious, patronizing speeches from doctors, flat out refusal from health care providers, requests for spousal permission or proof that the woman seeking to dam up her Fallopian tubes would be an unfit mother. And, despite the fact that this is 2012, there's no end in sight.
It's arguably more financially and socially responsible to go childless (or child-free, if you want to use phraseology that upsets self-righteous parents) in a world populated by seven billion hungry mouths, but many women who decided that being a mother is not for them often meet unexpected resistance from doctors. And the younger the woman making the choice, the less likely doctors are to trust that choice.

Slate's J. Bryan Lowder takes a peek between the ears of several doctors who deal with patients who wish to be sterilized. What could a doctor possibly know about a woman's future mental state or her confidence in her decision that she herself doesn't? Many seem concerned that young women who say they want to permanently zone their uteruses for recreation rather than fetal residency don't really mean it; they're just being silly young women who are making a permanent decision about a temporary aversion to parenthood. And they're not entirely off base about women changing their minds; Lowder points out that a Collaborative Review of Sterilization (CREST) study found that 20.3% of women who received tubal ligations prior to age 30 report that they later regret the decision. For women who were over 30 when they tied the knots, about 13% felt remorseful. Despite this, only 1.1% of women who receive tubal ligations attempt to have the procedure reversed.

On one hand, a doctor should make sure that a patient is informed of what a medical procedure entails, possible risks, and other pertinent information before performing a serious, difficult-to-reverse surgery — when not performed as part of a cesarean section or vaginal childbirth, getting ones tubes tied can be a major undertaking. And there are semi-permanent and long term alternatives to tubal ligation on the market that provide just about the same certainty that tube-tying provides without the permanence — IUD's, for example, or Implanon. Essure, a coil that's inserted into the fallopian tubes, can keep a woman unpregnant, is permanent like tubal ligation, and is less invasive. But on the other hand: This is a legal medical procedure. These women are adults. If a patient is informed of what a procedure entails before receiving care, whether or not a patient regrets a procedure in a decade is not the doctor's responsibility. If "regret" was a valid reason for a lawsuit, tattoo artists would have to carry unbelievably expensive "sorry you thought a circle of dolphins surrounding a yin yang symbol would be a cool thing to get permanently put on your lower back" insurance.

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As a Child-free woman who spent nearly 20 years trying to find a doctor who would perform this procedure - in my case, not only was it my dearest wish to have it done, it became medically important that I did not become pregnant - I can attest to the truth of this article, though I've seen other studies that show lower "regret" numbers for sterilized nullaparas.

Also, Essure is not considered reversible; it permanently scars the Fallopian tubes around the device.
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Given the relatively low numbers for post op regret Warpy Jul 2012 #1
Are you me? :-) REP Jul 2012 #5
When I got mine at age 30 NV Whino Jul 2012 #2
That was an extraordinarily arrogant comment by the doc. Gormy Cuss Jul 2012 #3
had it done twice... handmade34 Jul 2012 #4
I've had a tubal ligation and a uterine ablation - but only once each REP Jul 2012 #6
I had 3 children with my abusive ex-husband kdmorris Jul 2012 #7
That seems to follow CREST findings: REP Jul 2012 #8
Except for "being of Hispanic origin" kdmorris Jul 2012 #9
Get your tubes tied and regret it, you have many options LadyHawkAZ Jul 2012 #10
I had a hard time getting my tubes tied and I already had two kids gollygee Jul 2012 #11
In most cases there's no reason not to try a LARC first, LeftyMom Jul 2012 #12
Except for wanting it over and done with REP Jul 2012 #13
Pretty much every other country in the world routinely puts IUDs in nulliparas. LeftyMom Jul 2012 #14
I'd say it's largely ass-covering. n/t gkhouston Jul 2012 #15
I think they just weren't making them for the US market REP Jul 2012 #17
Make the man get a V-sect! Taverner Jul 2012 #16
And recovery is much less for the male procedure! It's a much more minor procedure. yardwork Jul 2012 #18
Two anecdotes. REP Jul 2012 #22
I'd given birth that year and had spent my out-of-pocket annual maximum gollygee Jul 2012 #19
Not so great for those of us women LadyHawkAZ Jul 2012 #20
I've been with my partner 20 years. I still want to control MY body. REP Jul 2012 #21
I certainly won't disagree with that LadyHawkAZ Jul 2012 #23
Would you have needed a note from a man to remain pregnant? REP Jul 2012 #24
"Make" the man? 4th law of robotics Jul 2012 #25
if it's a pain in the ass, i'd say your surgeon missed the mark.... unblock Jul 2012 #26
I didn't write the headline... REP Jul 2012 #28
I have been taking hormonal birth control for 30 years prole_for_peace Jul 2012 #27
I had a great doctor LaurenG Jul 2012 #29
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