Women live more years in ill-health than men, finds gender health gap study

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1. how much of that is cuz docs just dont listen to women?

sounds like the exact things that docs miss when it’s a woman talking.
and sounds like me rn. nothing threatening my life, just stuff that makes me miserable.
my melanoma was treated quickly. my diverticulitis, not so much. 2 trips to the er in recent weeks. got great care and big antibiotics the 1st time. 2 wks later, when i was still in a lot of pain i went back. wasnt in a crisis, but know how long the op system takes v how quick things happen in the er. i was not willing to wait weeks and weeks for every test/appt. this is urgent.
they repeated tests, which got worse. wbc higher, despite ab’s, rbc dropping. and liver inflamed, likely from ab’s.

i know how this stuff works, so ate/acted to minimize the pain. it’s less frequent, but just as bad.
well, i looked and felt fine for the several hours i sat there and actually got shamed for using the mostly empty er to get care quicker. but i got the urgent gi referral, which was my goal.
urgent means i have an appt in a month. i’m on the ‘hot list’, but i suspect that my informed management of my symptoms will mean i wait the whole month. the part where it’s sucking up most of my life to do it is not in my favor.

i think they just assume that if the pain is bad enough to bring a man to the er, it must b a crisis. but a woman w a thick med file like me must just b a whiner. they didnt even ask about pain meds. they gave me 10 norco 1st time, but i didnt take them. they didnt even ask me what i was taking, or did i need more. i took 1 for the 1st time that day. think i told them that. but they didnt see me cryin, so they assumed.
i’m sure if i’d asked, they’d have assumed i was just drug seeking.
women’s pain is ignored more often than not.