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(22,071 posts) Fri Jul 1, 2022, 06:14 AM Jul 2022

Our world came crashing down yesterday. [View all]

After beating kidney cancer AND Stage 4 Lymphoma, wifey has been diagnosed with Leukemia, probably caused by the chemo from her Lymphoma treatment.
She/We are devastated. We went to the doctor's office thinking that she would be treated for a blood disorder with oral medicines and left knowing that she will have to undergo allogeneic stem cell transplant.
To top it all off, her treatment, which will last 3 months (one complete month in the hospital and two months in a apartment adjascent to the hospital) is 4 hours away from our home.
So, my question to the group, does anyone have any suggestions on how to acquire a "caregiver" for the two months she will need one at her side 24/7? We have no one to turn to and will need to try to HIRE someone to assist us. Agencies, gov't assistance or any references would help tremendously.
To be honest, we are both still in shock. We thought we had beat her cancers ( and have because her kidney cancer and lymphoma are clear) and now this. It is almost more than we can bear.
thanks for any help.

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Our world came crashing down yesterday. [View all] Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 OP

I wish there was something I could say... Walleye Jul 2022 #1

Thank you Walleye Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #2

Your wife sounds like a fighter.. I hope she beats this, too.. secondwind Jul 2022 #3

Thank you secondwind. Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #8

Are there any... 2naSalit Jul 2022 #4

this mopinko Jul 2022 #5

Yeah... 2naSalit Jul 2022 #11

We got back home very late last nite. We will be calling and beginning our investigations today. Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #9

Seems so daunting... 2naSalit Jul 2022 #12

The ONLY group that I can count on to be there. Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #19

Your wife is fortunate to have such a good planner/fighter,... magicarpet Jul 2022 #6

Thank you magicarpet Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #10

Public libraries might have leads to actual caregivers Tetrachloride Jul 2022 #7

I am so sorry to hear this WA-03 Democrat Jul 2022 #13

Thank you WA Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #20

Ferret, you've both gone through so much already, and ancianita Jul 2022 #14

Thank you so very much Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #26

I am so very sorry to hear this. KatyaR Jul 2022 #15

Thank you Kat Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #27

... nothing you probably don't already know. 3Hotdogs Jul 2022 #16

Thank you so much for your suggestions Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #22

Maybe more specifically... Where do you live? 3Hotdogs Jul 2022 #17

Mobile, AL The treatment center is in B'ham which is 4 hrs away Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #23

Can I suggest that you contact your local Leukemia and Lymphoma Society Cozmo Jul 2022 #18

Thank you. We will be doing so today. Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #24

I'm sorry I don't have any suggestions... róisín_dubh Jul 2022 #21

Thank you so much. Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #25

A Possibility wyn borkins Jul 2022 #28

Thank you for your suggestion Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #32

I am so sorry. Try calling your state's social services dept Joinfortmill Jul 2022 #29

Thank you Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #34

If you are on Medicare, it will pay for room and board for hospice care. Lonestarblue Jul 2022 #30

Thank you Lonestar Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #35

Can't imagine what you're going through. In our household, its been my wife taking care of me 70sEraVet Jul 2022 #31

Thank you Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #36

Ferrets, I am so very sorry for the devastating news you and your wife have received! LaMouffette Jul 2022 #33

Thank you so much Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #37

I'm very sorry to hear of your struggle but have no insight to... NNadir Jul 2022 #38

Thank you so much Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #39

So sorry to read this. I have no suggestions for assistance, sinkingfeeling Jul 2022 #40

Thank you Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #48

Does the hospital have social services Marthe48 Jul 2022 #41

Thank you Marthe Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #49

The shock of it has got to be rough. jaxexpat Jul 2022 #42

Thank you. Yes, one step at a time. Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #50

I used care.com for my dad and a different local company for husband. MLAA Jul 2022 #43

Thank you for your post. Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #51

Lots of good advice upthread cate94 Jul 2022 #44

Thank you Cate Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #52

First off, I hope things go according to plan for you. plimsoll Jul 2022 #45

You are most likely correct. Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #54

I am so sorry to hear this, especially after having overcome so much. Does the hospital in LoisB Jul 2022 #46

Thank you. We got in very late last nite and will be contacting resources today Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #55

(((((((((ferret /wife))))))))) all the suggestions upthread were excellent, and niyad Jul 2022 #47

Thank you so much. Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #56

I would suggest you guys look @ staying in some kind of residential care facility for those months. Botany Jul 2022 #53

Thank you Botany Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #57

There are some new treatments for leukemia. And look into clinical trials. erronis Jul 2022 #58

Thank you erronis Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #61

I would Rebl2 Jul 2022 #59

Yes she is Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #62

All my best to you and your wife, ferrets - cilla4progress Jul 2022 #60

Thank you cilla Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #63

I'm sorry. live love laugh Jul 2022 #64

THank you LLL Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #65

We got great people from an agency that was recommended to us applegrove Jul 2022 #66

Thanks AG Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #67

I have a friend whose kids have all grown up. She's lovely. She is single. applegrove Jul 2022 #68

We are still gathering information Ferrets are Cool Jul 2022 #69