Looking for tactics/experience/advice for parents dealing with an adult child with eating disorder

[grntuscarora]

8. My oldest daughter

was diagnosed as anorexic her senior year in college by the school health clinic, who alerted the Assistant Dean, who alerted her dad and I that she needed to be placed in a residential treatment facility that specialized in eating disorders. Conveniently, there was one near the campus and,incredibly, our insurance covered it. To say we felt confused, scared and helpless is putting it mildly. Being 10 hours away from her didn't help either, although the treatment facility had (what seemed to me) a draconian visitation policy, so we wouldn't have been able to see much of her even if we had been nearby.

We were lucky in so many respects: 1.That the school took my daughter's situation extremely seriously and really insisted she get treatment. 2.My daughter was able to acknowledge she had a life-threatening problem. 3.There was a treatment center near her that was covered by our insurance. 4. The treatment apparently worked and she has been ok since leaving treatment three years ago.

She still has body image issues, and we worry that she might relapse, but so far so good. She found a job she loves and she's really pouring her heart into that. Perhaps she has channeled her issues into her job--- I don't know. Her work has taken her to the other side of the country, so again, her dad and I are worrying and watching from a distance.

I only saw your post today or would have responded much sooner. Best wishes to you and your child. If I can be of any help, feel free to message me.