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35. OldBaldy1701E, you are not alone.

Wed Jan 26, 2022, 02:38 PM

Jan 2022

The mind gremlins are cruel and they lie to you, make you think that you're weak and friendless when it isn't true.

Your life is not useless. You are not useless, and more than one person, many more than you may realize, would be so saddened to lose you. You may not remember the time we chatted briefly about ST, but I do, and I immediately recognized your name and was so upset to know that you're this miserable. Please think about starting a gofundme to fix your car. There's already a line of people ready and willing to help and I'm one of them.

Gently: If your husband's face seems deflated now, imagine how deflated it would be if you were to go, leaving him all alone. Please. Don't leave this life. As dark as it seems now, there are other ways out of depression that don't take you from your loved ones. You can do this.

http://www.suicide.org/hotlines/minnesota-suicide-hotlines.html
https://mn.gov/dhs/partners-and-providers/policies-procedures/adult-mental-health/crisis-text-line/

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This may be it [View all] OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 OP

Please know you are not alone. MyMission Jan 2022 #1

Speaking as someone who lost a fiance to suicide femmedem Jan 2022 #2

My uncle had to hire a Social Security disability attorney Bluethroughu Jan 2022 #3

My sister had to do this. blueinredohio Jan 2022 #14

The do NOT automatically reject everyone the first time. PoindexterOglethorpe Jan 2022 #16

I agree with this. My mother was initially rejected rsdsharp Jan 2022 #18

Also, is your car fixable if you had the funds? femmedem Jan 2022 #4

Ie expect many DU's would contribute to a Go Fund 3Hotdogs Jan 2022 #5

Me too. I would. n/t femmedem Jan 2022 #8

+1 chowder66 Jan 2022 #34

I'm so sorry XanaDUer2 Jan 2022 #6

Sending you my best DU vibes Wicked Blue Jan 2022 #7

Set up a GoFundMe Caliman73 Jan 2022 #9

A lot of us would be willing to help if you do a GoFundMe. It can really add up. kysrsoze Jan 2022 #15

My mom wrote a note telling all of us we would be way better off. She was wrong. LizBeth Jan 2022 #10

What's the problem with the car? mahatmakanejeeves Jan 2022 #11

(((HUGS))) vanlassie Jan 2022 #12

You can appeal the SS. Mz Pip Jan 2022 #13

I just got an attorney for my appeal XanaDUer2 Jan 2022 #21

Yes and with a win, get backpay mzmolly Jan 2022 #33

Money is the smallest thing one can give, and sometimes it is everything. blm Jan 2022 #17

No one will be better off with you gone. You are needed. You must FIGHT for your benefits. LoisB Jan 2022 #19

You are not alone Ferryboat Jan 2022 #20

No one would be better off. We will help you. Please set up go fund me. onecaliberal Jan 2022 #22

+1 50 Shades Of Blue Jan 2022 #23

Call 1--800-273-8255 and ask for help. sinkingfeeling Jan 2022 #24

It's not a useless life. Baitball Blogger Jan 2022 #25

A giant DU meetup XanaDUer2 Jan 2022 #30

DU keeps me sane too. Baitball Blogger Jan 2022 #31

I wish I was home. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #40

My doctors here are great XanaDUer2 Jan 2022 #42

Ahh... I love Long Beach! OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #45

It's such bullshit XanaDUer2 Jan 2022 #46

Minnesota is a hard place for those not used to it iemanja Jan 2022 #51

If you return to NC let me know. JanMichael Jan 2022 #57

Have you reached out to the disability community for help with Social Security? thucythucy Jan 2022 #26

How did you get tricked into moving there? BlackSkimmer Jan 2022 #27

Because we were led to believe that it would be an 'all for one' scenario. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #41

If you've cared for people, made them smile, comforted them - you are a useful person electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #28

I have no idea if I have done any of that. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #43

You are loved and needed cally Jan 2022 #29

Depression lies to you. Your mate is not better off without you. mzmolly Jan 2022 #32

OldBaldy1701E, you are not alone. crickets Jan 2022 #35

Stay with us Baldy budkin Jan 2022 #36

I'm in Minnesota and suffer from depression iemanja Jan 2022 #37

They could not help because of our housing situation. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #44

Did you already call them? iemanja Jan 2022 #48

I should add iemanja Jan 2022 #50

What that will 'trigger' is a SWAT team kicking in my door. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #62

Well, that's a different matter iemanja Jan 2022 #63

Don't do anything rash, Baldy. roamer65 Jan 2022 #38

UPDATE for those who might be interested. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #39

To your reply back to me 1) you're a DU member so you've been helpful to us DU'rs! electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #47

Dear, dear Baldy. Does your husband know you are so close to ending it? femmedem Jan 2022 #49

I used to believe in that social contract as well. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #54

I believe femmedem has a good point... "am I not my brother's(& sister's) keeper?" electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #52

I forgot to add OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #53

I'm glad it helps a little to see so many people rooting for you and trying to help. femmedem Jan 2022 #55

I am glad you mentioned that. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #64

please set up a gofundme Skittles Jan 2022 #56

What's the issue with the car? hamsterjill Jan 2022 #58

It was the starter. It failed. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #65

Hee hee. Like you, I am female and know a little about cars hamsterjill Jan 2022 #66

Thank you very much. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #68

I'm an idiot! hamsterjill Jan 2022 #69

Got it. 👍 Keep hanging in there OB! electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #70

That sounds tricky with your car problem ... electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #67

Please please stay with us berniesandersmittens Jan 2022 #59

And, who is paying for it? (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #61

I know what you're going through vercetti2021 Jan 2022 #60

Checking in on you, OB. Pleas give us a "hello". electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #71

Hello OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #72

Ty for popping in... electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #73

How are you doing, OB? dixiechiken1 Feb 2022 #74

Ahh... my favorite Little Feat song... OldBaldy1701E Feb 2022 #75

This message was self-deleted by its author dixiechiken1 Feb 2022 #76

The only way I keep from killing myself is... I procrastinate my way out of it. TigressDem Feb 2022 #77

Thank you so much for your post. OldBaldy1701E Feb 2022 #78

You are welcome. TigressDem Feb 2022 #79

It sounds as if you are doing way better than I am. OldBaldy1701E Feb 2022 #80

It's easy to compare our insides to someone else's outsides and think they are doing better. TigressDem Feb 2022 #81

Thank you again. OldBaldy1701E Feb 2022 #82

You need a better publicist. (wink) TigressDem Feb 2022 #83

Well, let me explain. OldBaldy1701E Feb 2022 #84

I hear how hard it is. TigressDem Mar 2022 #85