BREAKTHROUGH

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21. Painful Realization

Painful realization. I think it's like leaving an abusive partner because the whole thing about thinking they own you has this weird intimacy to it. They feel entitled to tell you whatever and however because you are an extension of them- you are not allowed independent thoughts, feelings, or boundaries. I went through this with my sister and my right hand person at my job when she found out I was retiring.

Then there's the multi-whammy when of significant occasions, or when the person also has bi-polar disorder.

You've done the right thing and yet what makes the grieving so hard is that everyone needs family, and also that she is doing something no one will likely confront her about.

It helps me to remember this is who they are right now, and maybe forever. People who burn bridges and have NPD can't admit they did something horrible which is why they don't get help.

I'm recovering and will keep you in my heart as you begin