But you know that because I can see that all your internal alarm bells are going off.
They are going off for good reason because your situation is serious and complicated.
I am a retired mental health professional with 40 years clinical experience.
My clinical alarm bells are going off too and I don't rattle easily.
Your mentally ill sister is depressed, psychotic and paranoid.
She is actively talking suicide, and is trying to get you involved with the planning
and execution of her suicide.
I must point out that paranoid psychosis is one of the more dangerous mental health diagnoses.
The paranoid patient truly feels others are out to get them and therefore can take aggressive measures
to protect themselves. We already know she has thoughts of death and dying, and is acting out.
She is rejecting all forms of professional and support system intervention.
Additionally you and your husband are older, and he has dementia, a vulnerable person.
This is a bad situation which is getting worse by the day. I don't like where this can end.
I am going to be blunt here Sleepless. It is high time for you to call your nephew and brother.
And tell them that one of them needs to come get your sister. She has lived with them before and apparently was
more stable. All the moving around is not helping her condition. She needs to be with one of them
and be hospitalized and obtain treatment. If she is suicidal with a plan she can be pink slipped.
You have a duty to yourself and to your ill husband, to keep both of you safe.
So I would be assertive with your family and spell it out for them. If the situation continues
as is, it is heading for protective services and the state will sort it out.
Oh please remove all weapons or dangerous items from your home asap.
This is my .02, hope it helps.
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