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LakeArenal

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3. Much like Mr Lake tho he does pickup and dishes.

Sun Jul 30, 2023, 12:01 PM

Jul 2023

I just pick my battles.

I state clearly about something and see what he does. One thing at a time. Over and over.

“Move your shoes out of the doorway.”
Then I repeat quietly over and over til it gets done.

His passive aggressive thing is to roll his eyes behind my back. Just enough so I see it.

But the qualities of humor, intelligence, political ideals, choice in music and supporting the big stuff like moving to Costa Rica outweighs any of the little shit.

PS I annoy him too. I’m just not passive aggressive like him so all I get is an eye roll behind my back.

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Need to vent. [View all] TigressDem Jul 2023 OP

Have you given him an ultimatum? True Dough Jul 2023 #1

What I "think MIGHT work" is to tell him the toll it is taking on me. TigressDem Jul 2023 #6

Wishing you the best. multigraincracker Jul 2023 #2

Thanks. TigressDem Jul 2023 #7

Much like Mr Lake tho he does pickup and dishes. LakeArenal Jul 2023 #3

I have told him I am going to print out a list. TigressDem Jul 2023 #8

He's a tough case for sure. LakeArenal Jul 2023 #10

Sometimes. TigressDem Jul 2023 #14

I have just one idea. MLAA Jul 2023 #4

I like that. TigressDem Jul 2023 #11

He works from home.. Deuxcents Jul 2023 #5

For some reason he sees me cooking for him as "love" so I'm ok doing it most of the time. TigressDem Jul 2023 #12

He has sometimes been willing to do laundry. TigressDem Jul 2023 #15

After 62 years snowybirdie Jul 2023 #9

For most of 35 years that worked for us. TigressDem Jul 2023 #13

Our insurance covers mental health like therapy, but not couples therapy. 2naSalit Jul 2023 #16

Maybe. TigressDem Jul 2023 #17

This is very disrespectful toward you. It sounds like the thing that is bothering Scrivener7 Jul 2023 #18

Funny is he doesn't remember it the way it happens. TigressDem Jul 2023 #20

Years ago, I told husband who kept asking what I wanted for Christmas that I wanted a WIFE! Attilatheblond Jul 2023 #19

What is interesting is THIS man has been the BEST for around 35 years. TigressDem Jul 2023 #21

Time for a medical check up, maybe? Attilatheblond Jul 2023 #22

I'm honestly hoping that getting good sleep will be a start. TigressDem Jul 2023 #23

I would call a family meeting. HeartachesNhangovers Aug 2023 #24

We did make a list in June TigressDem Aug 2023 #25