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Mental Health Support

peacefreak2.0

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5. I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Reply to FirstLight (Original post)

Tue Aug 8, 2023, 02:49 AM

Aug 2023

I went through something similar. Please remember how she treats you reflects on her, not you. Her actions are causing this situation. Even though I am not religious, The Serenity Prayer got me through. I’m still dealing with the emotional wreckage after 3 years, but I try to only carry the responsibility of my actions in the situation, but not the guilt she wants me to carry.
Be kind to yourself. You are a lovely person. Don’t let her dim that beautiful First Light. ♥️

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All my electronics are smashed... Abuse issues [View all] FirstLight Aug 2023 OP

So sorry you're going thru this Hugh_Lebowski Aug 2023 #1

You may want to take care of yourself and BigmanPigman Aug 2023 #2

Agreed, just difficult to hold such strong boundaries when FirstLight Aug 2023 #3

many blessings your way, among them freedom from abuse. nt AnotherDreamWeaver Aug 2023 #4

I'm so sorry you're going through this. peacefreak2.0 Aug 2023 #5

I hear you, Ampulae Aug 2023 #6

Take care of yourself first vlyons Aug 2023 #7

Send her packing cate94 Aug 2023 #8

This is serious. As you said: violence only escalates without intervention. Make your preparation .. marble falls Aug 2023 #9

yeah, not sure where u r, but once u let them in, u have to give them 30 day notice. mopinko Aug 2023 #10

This. Violent abuse typically escalates. scipan Aug 2023 #15

gotta be in writing. mopinko Aug 2023 #17

there's a certain amount of boiler plate that is probably needed but- mopinko Aug 2023 #18

youre a GOOD person..dont let her make you feel otherwise..and you need to take care.. samnsara Aug 2023 #11

Your local library can give you access to the internet so maybe that will help a bit? BlackSkimmer Aug 2023 #12

Do NOT tolerate her behavior. PoindexterOglethorpe Aug 2023 #13

Is this the same roommate you've written about in the past? BlackSkimmer Aug 2023 #14

You need to evict her. Give her 30 days. And don't fall for guilt-shaming. CousinIT Aug 2023 #16

Thanks for listening and your thoughts... Things are in the works FirstLight Aug 2023 #19

Times like this, I miss my Mom FirstLight Aug 2023 #20

And that's when you know she's still with you! BlackSkimmer Aug 2023 #21

Damn, got something in my eyes... FirstLight Aug 2023 #22

My mom would enter my life in full berserker warrior mode as a destroyer of all... hunter Aug 2023 #23