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Mental Health Support

vlyons

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2. Sounds like a good plan

Reply to Siwsan (Original post)

Thu Aug 31, 2023, 08:23 AM

Aug 2023

We cannot control how other people behave. We can only control how we ourselves think and behave. Your BIL has clearly signaled that he wants his own space. Perhaps he still grieves his late wife too. In your own mind, wish him and his family great happiness.

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This is going to be a very rough day [View all] Siwsan Aug 2023 OP

God bless you, my friend. TSExile Aug 2023 #1

Sounds like a good plan vlyons Aug 2023 #2

Unfortunately he has turned into his father. Siwsan Aug 2023 #5

In Buddhism, I am taught to have compassion for all sentient beings equally and without exception. vlyons Aug 2023 #15

I have copied this to practice in my own life. Thank you for this. LoisB Aug 2023 #17

That is very good advice for us all. Thank you for the reminder judesedit Aug 2023 #18

I try. Believe me, I try. I think my heart and soul has been ravaged by so many deaths Siwsan Aug 2023 #21

Just remember to tell yourself that negative thoughts are not helpful. vlyons Aug 2023 #26

Thank you for those words of wisdom. Butterflylady Aug 2023 #22

Reminds me of a 12-Step practice when I was dealing with resentment. summer_in_TX Aug 2023 #33

The fur babies say they need you to do that, too. blm Aug 2023 #3

Immersed in your sea of loving fur babies... that is the most healing thing I can imagine doing. hlthe2b Aug 2023 #4

Hugggggggs., dear friend. I hereby declare a day out of time for you, and niyad Aug 2023 #6

+1 2naSalit Aug 2023 #9

((((Hugs))))....take the day to yourself MiHale Aug 2023 #7

You've got the right idea... RainCaster Aug 2023 #8

My heart goes out to you, in your grief wendyb-NC Aug 2023 #10

Sending you extra care today... FM123 Aug 2023 #11

Sending you lots of love. You're right where you need to be. You are so loved. Goddessartist Aug 2023 #12

Rage and gruief are harming only you. You are the one who deserves your kindness. Polly Hennessey Aug 2023 #13

That is a good way to view the situation. calimary Aug 2023 #16

x1000 judesedit Aug 2023 #19

It's a take care of yourself day. 2naSalit Aug 2023 #14

Focus on the beautiful little fur babies. Your BIL's ugliness can't compete with all that cuteness LoisB Aug 2023 #20

Just a quick reminder: " Your friends are god's way of apologizing for your niyad Aug 2023 #23

I am so sorry for your loss and deep grief. 🙏🙏🙏 LiberalLoner Aug 2023 #24

Please be gentle with yourself. majdrfrtim Aug 2023 #25

Sending you hugs and love, Siwsan. gademocrat7 Aug 2023 #27

Your love for your sister shines through Wild blueberry Aug 2023 #28

I've never met you and I love you. 1WorldHope Aug 2023 #29

Siwsan, stage left Aug 2023 #30

I find the best balm for the soul is... wysimdnwyg Aug 2023 #31

As others have said, be kind to yourself, take care of yourself. CaptainTruth Aug 2023 #32

Hugs for you, Siwsan. debm55 Sep 2023 #34