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Denninmi

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18. So, why am I "ashamed" if I am doing amazing things in my life?

Sat Jan 5, 2013, 06:14 PM

Jan 2013

Good question. The best answer that comes to mind is that this is a logical paradox, both cannot be simultaneously true. Therefore, the false one needs to go.

So, it's like, pick which reality I want, the one where I feel bad about myself and wallow in low self-esteem and just generally live like a loser

Or

The reality where I am doing things I never thought I could do. Like biking 40 miles in one morning, or hanging out at a gym "with the guys" or going out at six in the morning and running on my street even if I feel like I'm going to die doing it, and then turning around and doing it again the next day.

I don't think this is a very difficult choice at all.

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I'm sorry, it WAS my fault, and I can't accept being told otherwise. [View all] Denninmi Jan 2013 OP

Shame ... remorse ... eventually you'll get to 'self-forgiving'. All part of healing. Good luck. Scuba Jan 2013 #1

I have a gift I'd like to pass on to you. In_The_Wind Jan 2013 #2

You snuck in the word totally right at the end. Festivito Jan 2013 #3

That's interesting, Denninmi Jan 2013 #5

I'd be willing to bet that whatever this is about Tobin S. Jan 2013 #4

Tobin, it's about this. Denninmi Jan 2013 #7

And I was right. Tobin S. Jan 2013 #10

I'm not really sure how to respond to that. Denninmi Jan 2013 #11

This message was self-deleted by its author HereSince1628 Jan 2013 #13

Actually, this is exactly the kind of analysis I need. Denninmi Jan 2013 #14

This message was self-deleted by its author HereSince1628 Jan 2013 #16

I'll try to clarify. Denninmi Jan 2013 #20

Understanding the timeline helps me better understand HereSince1628 Jan 2013 #21

Part 2 here. Denninmi Jan 2013 #15

This message was self-deleted by its author HereSince1628 Jan 2013 #17

So, why am I "ashamed" if I am doing amazing things in my life? Denninmi Jan 2013 #18

That's right, Dennis. Tobin S. Jan 2013 #22

Mine ends with A catguy who spent over 15 years in a mental hospital undergroundpanther Jan 2013 #31

Piping up libodem Jan 2013 #6

If that's the title, it sounds like exactly what I need. Denninmi Jan 2013 #8

If you get it libodem Jan 2013 #9

I have a little AlAnon daily read libodem Jan 2013 #12

Thanks. Denninmi Jan 2013 #19

Since my attitude needs some adjustment at times, Denninmi Jan 2013 #23

And now, I'm running away from all of this .... Denninmi Jan 2013 #24

You're cool, Dennis. :) Tobin S. Jan 2013 #25

Real fear that mental illness will genuinely exclude you from aspects of existence? Fire Walk With Me Jan 2013 #26

I think I did the right thing here. Denninmi Jan 2013 #27

Should I feel ashamed or guilty for having MS? Downwinder Jan 2013 #28

No, of course not. Denninmi Jan 2013 #29

Nor should you. It is not something like chicken pox Downwinder Jan 2013 #30

Would you hold a friend to as high a standard as you hold yourself? n/t TexasBushwhacker Jan 2013 #32

No, of course not. Denninmi Jan 2013 #33

I do the same thing TexasBushwhacker Jan 2013 #34