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Neoma

(10,039 posts)
9. I feel like I've heard it all.
Mon Feb 13, 2012, 12:23 AM
Feb 2012

My preschool teacher used to tie one student to the chair with duct tape. Though, he didn't go around naked... Sounds horrible though. Trees are uncomfortable. (I've climbed a lot of trees.) And my brother once tied me up once. Good memories... Anyways, I'm not the best person to go to for advice on how to act, given that I love the idea of breaking hidden social rules sometimes. (I'm too nice though.) But I'll give it a shot:

It's better to ask questions and listen than to reveal things about yourself right away. I've scared off many people that way.

It's better to be in a group setting if you're trying to meet people. Also, it's okay to look at someone in the eye across the room, as long as you're smiling.

Angry people aren't always angry to be mean, it's to protect themselves from people before they're attacked themselves.

Being nice opens yourself up for attack, but at least you're not like the person attacking you. Try to be nice and calm through out a horrible conversation so that they realize how much of a jerk they're being.

Old fashioned, but manners do matter, even though they barely exist anymore. If you have problems with that, there's funny Victorian books on it. Just pick out the ones you think are nice, and dump the rest. If anything, you'll learn what other people think what being polite is.

Everyone has some kind of mental issue, don't fool yourself. I've met the most bubbly happy woman once, and it turned out she was molested and abused during her life, and she's on anti-depressants. People who haven't had help, probably either need it, or will in the future when they're 80 or so years old. (That's my opinion on why the world is so fucked.)

Well, the last one isn't advice, but it helps in prospective terms. I dunno, this is just random things I think of, it's hard giving this type of advice.


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