Hello. Going through a rough period of my life.

[EFerrari]

6. Although the specifics are a little different, your story reminds me so much of me

at about the same age. Maybe the best thing I did for myself was interview a number of therapists before finding one that I was very comfortable with (as comfortable as I got with stangers, any way). She did years worth of boundary work with me and it helped me so much. Just working on that, steadily and patiently, changed everything.

My parent didn't know how to support the development of my boundaries and alternately abandoned me or was rigidly controlling. It amounts to the same thing: you never learn to sort yourself out from everything else. Of course, that leads to debilitating anxiety or, did for me, in any case. Leads to a lot of false starts, to fragmented relationships, to substance use or abuse, to all kinds of things a person does to cope with feeling out of place or directionless or anxious because the center isn't "set", it's barely there, in a way.

Does any of this ring a bell?