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Jarqui

(10,516 posts)
20. My best friend developed bipolar hypomania in 2013
Sun Dec 9, 2018, 06:14 PM
Dec 2018

We're still fighting it.
I talk with him every day. I take him to doctors appointments.
For a while, we were spinning out wheels. Took three commitments to different psych hospitals to get good help.
After he got out, he was on a roller coaster.
A positive change happened when I started attending some of the follow up appointments. He was not remembering to tell the doctor everything that had been going on.

Another thing was changing from 3 month to monthly follow ups with telephone consultation in between. If you are only see the doctor once every 3 months, then you only get four shots to get the meds adjusted and if he is not successful, you've lost another year of his life. I kicked the snot out of his doctors over that and they relented. When he is in trouble, he needs more frequent attention.

We're human - not machines. Adding a quart of oil now and then won't keep the human brain motor running smooth because things change. His care has to be able to be there for when things change. Sometimes a medication loses it's effectiveness. Sometimes, a side effect builds up over time. Sometimes a new medication for another condition affects the mix. There is not a one size fits all medication solution for bipolar. And there is probably not one size fits forever solution either.

Get a blood work up done to check his levels for nutrition and physical functioning. You can reduce bipolar symptoms by getting the other parts of the body running better. His doctors/blood/medical tests dictate what needs to be done. A focus should be considered for supplements like vitamins or homeopathic treatments (that are backed up by medical study) to get him functioning as well as we can without the meds. This minimizes the bipolar meds needed to manage his condition and the side effects that go with them - which reduces the amplitude of the mood rollercoaster he is on. Hibicus tea for example really helps his anxiety.

I liked the posts above about getting a second (or third) opinion.

I liked the post above that talks him through without upsetting him - leading him to reality through his own answers. Like any human, he has strengths and weaknesses or comforts and discomforts - play the discussion towards his strengths and comforts - maybe using metaphors or reasoning that he could more easily relate to.

It can be a very challenging condition. But there are a lot of things we can do to help them.

Hope that helps.

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My husband's bipolar delusions are back [View all] get the red out Dec 2018 OP
Sending you compassion TEB Dec 2018 #1
Thanks get the red out Dec 2018 #2
I'm no Mental Health Specialist HumblePi Dec 2018 #3
Two thoughts, both from experience marylandblue Dec 2018 #4
This arithia Dec 2018 #5
His Therapist is new get the red out Dec 2018 #10
Brain chemistry can change and cause breakthrough marylandblue Dec 2018 #12
Wow get the red out Dec 2018 #14
If they signed HIPAA forms for each other, then yes. marylandblue Dec 2018 #15
Bottom line: THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT. NONE OF IT. pnwmom Dec 2018 #6
+1 Not your fault marylandblue Dec 2018 #8
Thanks get the red out Dec 2018 #13
Very stressful. Scarsdale Dec 2018 #7
Right now not get the red out Dec 2018 #31
Some thoughts. kstewart33 Dec 2018 #9
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Wait. The therapist is telling you to divorce him instead of ordering a psychiatric hold on him? DRoseDARs Dec 2018 #16
Her husband threatened divorce, it didn't come from the therapist marylandblue Dec 2018 #17
I'm saying the hotel might call the police and she needs to get ahead of that before it happens. DRoseDARs Dec 2018 #22
He has a history of bipolar, and this type of delusion is almost classic bipolar marylandblue Dec 2018 #23
An interesting and disheartening response. DRoseDARs Dec 2018 #24
That was my thought get the red out Dec 2018 #32
NOBODY can "order a psychiatric hold" unless Thunderbeast Dec 2018 #28
Call his psychiatrist mgardener Dec 2018 #18
my brother is bi-polar. ginnyinWI Dec 2018 #19
My best friend developed bipolar hypomania in 2013 Jarqui Dec 2018 #20
In this delusional state, can't it be determined that he may be of danger to himself/or others and iluvtennis Dec 2018 #21
def talk to the shrink, not the therapist. mopinko Dec 2018 #25
Oh my, so sorry to hear what you're going through... sendin' you BIG hugz InAbLuEsTaTe Dec 2018 #26
My Son is Bipolar - I Can Relate to Your Difficulties dlk Dec 2018 #27
Not a mental health professional but I've plenty of experience with bipolar people. Laffy Kat Dec 2018 #29
You are a kind and compassionate person Bayard Dec 2018 #30
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Have you contacted his psychiatrist yet? marylandblue Dec 2018 #35
How are things going for you and for him? irisblue Dec 2018 #36
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