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get the red out

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19. I am very much like you

Thu Apr 9, 2020, 04:00 PM

Apr 2020

I carry guilt off and on for being alive, since better people than me have died. But then I literally think “Dick Cheney is Stick alive! He contributed to God knows how many deaths, he is a war criminal, Bush too!” This is how I just explain to myself that there is a lot of chaos in the world and when we get lucky we get lucky, and you and I aren’t even war criminals!

I can think I am worse than Manson for getting chided for a small comment or joke, I am not going to dump on your friend, but she was more than a little controlling in her comment to you, but realizing other people aren’t always perfect in what they say REALLY helps me at least come back to one piece after taking myself apart.

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Help. I feel so guilty and I cannot shake it. [View all] pnwest Apr 2020 OP

You, personally cannot change the world at large Miguelito Loveless Apr 2020 #1

Thank you, I did that and it's good to be reminded that that counts! pnwest Apr 2020 #13

What would you advise a good friend to do in this case if they came to you seeking wisdom? ZZenith Apr 2020 #2

I can't think of any response other than to commiserate. Truly. pnwest Apr 2020 #3

I can commiserate with you, being in very similar circumstances. ZZenith Apr 2020 #10

And yet, it's noticeable how many people are TURNING to art at this time. There's pnwest Apr 2020 #12

It will come in time. ZZenith Apr 2020 #20

Your understanding me is making me cry....I've been in a creative slump for a long time, and it's pnwest Apr 2020 #21

I have mad empathy for you. ZZenith Apr 2020 #27

Perfect. That's exactly what I need to take into my heart. Thank you :) pnwest Apr 2020 #30

Yes!) SheltieLover Apr 2020 #51

Nonsense Tweedy Apr 2020 #47

Ah yes, the Drill Sargeant approach. ZZenith Apr 2020 #48

Just the facts approach Tweedy Apr 2020 #62

I am well aware of art history, thanks. ZZenith Apr 2020 #64

Not in the least Tweedy Apr 2020 #65

Ok. I will do just that. pnwest Apr 2020 #54

Do! Tweedy Apr 2020 #63

you could buy your guilt off Kali Apr 2020 #4

I have given a few dollars. Good reminder. pnwest Apr 2020 #14

This isn't a sprint. It's a relay race. Phoenix61 Apr 2020 #5

It's not my turn with the baton, and the above post saying I personally can't change the whole world pnwest Apr 2020 #18

You are doing good for your community just by staying home The Velveteen Ocelot Apr 2020 #6

very true, even tho it seems like nothing, by staying home i'm one less drag on the pnwest Apr 2020 #22

I get it... FirstLight Apr 2020 #7

thank YOU for sharing as well. You are def not the only one with emotional bullshit. Hugs. pnwest Apr 2020 #23

All of us have done this. Learn to forgive yourself for not being Perfect. flying_wahini Apr 2020 #8

Great idea, I just messaged her and asked how he is, if he's safe and well. pnwest Apr 2020 #25

Replace guilt with gratitude. LakeArenal Apr 2020 #9

No, i don't resent you at all, I'm in the same place. I also feel much awe and gratitude. pnwest Apr 2020 #26

If you can, donate to a food pantry. guillaumeb Apr 2020 #11

brave? more like desperate. I didn't have anywhere else to turn, and DU is such a great pnwest Apr 2020 #28

Definitely brave. guillaumeb Apr 2020 #59

😊 thank you pnwest Apr 2020 #60

Show your gratitude nocoincidences Apr 2020 #15

I will look for just such an opportunity! Thank you! pnwest Apr 2020 #32

Don't beat yourself up over a silly remark that you made that obviously does not represent Arkansas Granny Apr 2020 #16

You are very kind. Thank you. pnwest Apr 2020 #33

you can volunteer from home barbtries Apr 2020 #17

I am very much like you get the red out Apr 2020 #19

I have this as a recurring issue as well. Maybe we need to learn to translate the pnwest Apr 2020 #34

I started a howl from your porch group in my village. redwitch Apr 2020 #24

That's awesome, how do you coordinate that? FirstLight Apr 2020 #29

Community page on Facebook for my village and my personal page. redwitch Apr 2020 #38

I thought about doing the 8pm howl, but my neighbors would call the men in white coats...LOL pnwest Apr 2020 #36

Just thinking about howling makes me happy. redwitch Apr 2020 #42

I'm in awe of those brave people, for sure. pnwest Apr 2020 #44

Looking out for yourself and being safe during this time is not about being lucky. cayugafalls Apr 2020 #31

Thank you :) pnwest Apr 2020 #35

Realize you're being far more affected by anxiety than you think. Jirel Apr 2020 #37

wonderful advice, thank you so much. pnwest Apr 2020 #41

Thank you so much, everyone - there's so much here to think about, so much that's helpful. pnwest Apr 2020 #39

Hi Pn SheltieLover Apr 2020 #40

it helps in a large way! I will check out that link. thank you. pnwest Apr 2020 #43

Please also know SheltieLover Apr 2020 #46

Here is link to info on mindfulness SheltieLover Apr 2020 #49

Take it from someone who beats herself up for days at a time, (points at self) GemDigger Apr 2020 #45

Our modern society puts so much emphasis on doing. Maraya1969 Apr 2020 #50

There's another way to look at it. NoRoadUntravelled Apr 2020 #52

Thank you, that perspective is immensely helpful. pnwest Apr 2020 #55

Unwarranted guilt is a manifestation of depression. mzmolly Apr 2020 #53

As suggested express your gratitude & help others a bit if appalachiablue Apr 2020 #56

Were you raised Catholic or Jewish? customerserviceguy Apr 2020 #57

Oddly enough, no! LOL. But my mom was pnwest Apr 2020 #58

Just like customerserviceguy Apr 2020 #61

Thank you - this conversation has been hugely helpful. pnwest Apr 2020 #67

I'm making wellness calls for my county. cwydro Apr 2020 #66

Some of your current situation may be due to luck, sure, CrispyQ Apr 2020 #68

I've turned a corner since posting this thread. Everyone's advice has been SO helpful in pnwest Apr 2020 #69