I've been wondering about nursing homes

[LeonidPlanck]

12. Hmmm, after some thought

Considering the spectrum of care facilities and not knowing your situation, I should add that after dad’s last big hospital stay he was in a convalescent home basically tied to a bed.

He insisted upon driving himself home from dialysis one day, had a massive heart attack two blocks from his home, totaled his car and 5 parked cars not far from his then apartment. (I know he often suffered from hypotensive syncope after dialysis which is what I suspect happened). He somehow made his way home and the police found him unresponsive. As he was convalescing he did have full access, but it was at his request and he didn’t have ad libitum freedom to do much; he ate what he was fed, bathed when the CNA had time and I had visiting hours-only latitude. In this case he was literally in a hospital bed for 60 days. And that’s what makes me consider the spectral nature of extended-care living.

But that’s much different than an assisted living or independent living home unless you’re at risk for emergent medical response.

Sorry to ramble, but I’ve spent the last 6 years dealing with this exact question.