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In reply to the discussion: How do I get through this? [View all]

SleeplessinSoCal

(9,762 posts)
9. In early stages Alzheimer's, my hubby gave permission...
Sat Oct 5, 2024, 03:13 AM
Oct 2024

... to get inside the computer. I walked in on the scam in progress and shut down the computer. The guy (possibly in India) then proceeded to call us back and berate me for not allowing him to speak to my hubby. I called the FBI and also took the computer to the geek squad

David also missed paying our bills on time. (Autopay is key and hiding his credit cards). He spent endless hours. picking up groceries from a list. He passed a written driver's test at 92. But eventually driving was fraught with challengers.

I found the goal was just to keep him from knowing his mind was turning on him. I know I lost patience once in a while. But exercise, good diet and showering love are key to functioning at your highest capacity.

Good luck! Think about having a CT scan of his brain. That may show you what actions to take. Or not take

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How do I get through this? [View all] slightlv Oct 2024 OP
perhaps if you shared your general location there might be more response nt msongs Oct 2024 #1
Wishing you all well TommyT139 Oct 2024 #2
Thanks! I'd already planned to do some research, you gave me a place to start! n/t slightlv Oct 2024 #13
When my late DH started becoming confused due to Parkinson's, he did marybourg Oct 2024 #3
I hate to go to those lengths, but I'm holding them in my slightlv Oct 2024 #14
1+ keithbvadu2 Oct 2024 #4
I don't really have anything helpful to say except I'm so sorry you are going through this. HeartsCanHope Oct 2024 #5
Change the password to your checking and savings accounts. Tess49 Oct 2024 #6
Actually, you and I think a lot alike. slightlv Oct 2024 #15
I understand your concerns about auto pay. My auto pays are for my utilities, and are posted on the due date of the bill Tess49 Oct 2024 #22
If you can't depend on when your autopays get deducted, you PoindexterOglethorpe Oct 15 #26
At first TommyT139 Oct 2024 #21
Sending you love BrianTheEVGuy Oct 2024 #7
The one hubby gotten taken in by has claimed a LOT of people here in the Midwest. slightlv Oct 2024 #16
At least you can vent here. calimary Oct 2024 #8
Thank you, calimary. slightlv Oct 2024 #17
Oh man... calimary Oct 2024 #24
Thank you.. slightlv Oct 2024 #25
In early stages Alzheimer's, my hubby gave permission... SleeplessinSoCal Oct 2024 #9
We've already done the CT scan. That's why I know it's "normal" aging. slightlv Oct 2024 #18
My David secretly told the neurologist about his concerns. SleeplessinSoCal Oct 2024 #23
Based on personal experience Lulu KC Oct 2024 #10
Love your last sentence! :) slightlv Oct 2024 #19
If you haven't already, it might be time to look into laws/process for conservatoryship Attilatheblond Oct 2024 #11
We can be sure that we're not sissies! WhiteTara Oct 2024 #12
Thank you for your thoughts, Tara. slightlv Oct 2024 #20
Just your first two sentences PoindexterOglethorpe Oct 15 #27
Good for you! slightlv Oct 15 #28
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