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[murielm99]

Tom died. I have been sick and lacking energy.

Of course it was a great shock. But now my daughter is dealing with his ex, who will not let the children see her. She did not even allow them to attend his funeral! She is going after my daughter's widow's benefits. This woman has been awarded a large insurance payment, which was part of her divorce agreement. She is set for life, unless she squanders it. My daughter, who now has to live on one income, will need to sell her home. Her husband died without a will.

We are helping, and there are lawyers. We will stand with her, as will his friends. She divorced him, and most of his friends dislike her.

When we went East to be with my daughter, I was sick. I thought it was the flu. I have Grave's disease. My thyroid levels were high, and my blood was very thin. (I take Coumadin). The doctor wrote an order for me to have tests at a hospital there, and have them faxed to her.

I got sicker. I was weak, running a temperature, and crabby. I was no help to my grieving daughter. My husband and I decided to rent a hotel room so I could get away for most of the day. Things were tense anyway. I was worried that I was giving the flu to everyone there.

My flu did not leave. When I came home, I went to the doctor. She put me on a three-day antibiotic, and things got a bit better. She did extensive tests, and thought I might have kidney stones. I had a CT scan. She told me the results would be back in forty-eight hours. She called me the next day. I have what she described as a cyst on my kidney. On Friday, she had the CT done again, this time with dye. I am supposed to know the results on Friday, May 1st. My blood is still thin. My thyroid results are okay, on the high side of normal.

I am worried. We do not need anything else going wrong.