Bereavement

No Vested Interest

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5. This is the time to take care of yourself first.

Sun Apr 26, 2015, 04:45 PM

Apr 2015

Remember what they tell us in airplanes - put on your own oxygen mask first, before taking care of those with you.
Your good husband understands and will put you first and take care of you.

You did the best thing by renting the hotel room at the time of your son-in-law's funeral.
Some of the problems of your son-in-law's family are beyond your ability to control or correct.

Obviously you want to be available for your daughter and her current needs, but at the same time, she doesn't want to see you ill and so concerned about her sorrow and burdens when you have your own immediate health concerns.

In past messages, you've mentioned going to Mass.
In that vein, I can only suggest that you give your problems and concerns to the One you pray to and honor.
Ask that One to hold your concerns at this time, to lighten the weight you are now carrying.

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I should add this: murielm99 Apr 2015 #1

Sending good vibes, hope you continue to be strong. NYC_SKP Apr 2015 #2

Moral support to you, Muriel, your daughter, the grandchildren. Demeter Apr 2015 #3

No good advice... DeadLetterOffice Apr 2015 #4

This is the time to take care of yourself first. No Vested Interest Apr 2015 #5

Thank you so much. murielm99 Apr 2015 #6

Ha! I had to laugh out loud at my mis-reading of where you were going. No Vested Interest Apr 2015 #7

When I spoke with my daughter again murielm99 Apr 2015 #8

It does seem like you and all your family have been given a very heavy No Vested Interest Apr 2015 #9